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Thursday, August 4, 2011
Size Matters?
A document that came from a large National Institutes of Health study that began in 2006, titled: “The Association Between Penis Size and Sexual Health Among Men Who Have Sex with Men” has been receiving a great deal of media attention.
This attention originated from Fox News and the Traditional Values Coalition, both seemingly pushing a political agenda. The attention is not simply because of the study’s conclusions, but because of the cost of original grant that came from the federal government and its link this study that examined penis size and sexual health .
The press discussing this article focused on some of the key findings that are easily sensationalized , namely; “Those gay men who felt they had small or inadequate penis sizes were more likely to become “bottoms,” or anal receptive, while gay men with larger penises were more likely to identify themselves as “tops,” or anal insertive. Another finding is also mentioned in most of the articles, a finding stating that men with smaller penises were more likely to be psychologically troubled than those with larger genitalia.
After reading the full publication, I can report that there was more to the study that just sexual positioning. It sought to explore four questions: First, to what extent is perceived penis size associated with penis size satisfaction? Second, understanding that condoms are often limited to a narrow range of available sizes, to what extent is perceived penis size associated with condom use, HIV, and STIs? Third, to what extent is perceived penis size associated with men’s sexual positioning (anal insertive vs. receptive)? Finally, to what extent is perceived penis size associated with psychosocial outcomes (e.g., adjustment in the GLBT community)?
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Thursday, July 21, 2011
NIH-Backed Study Examined Effects of Penis Size in Gay Community
[ I am shocked that the NIH would put money towards a project like this without connecting it to Gay Men's health. This must be an error. ]
The federal government helped fund a study that examined what effect a gay man's penis size has on his sex life and general well-being.
The study was among several backed by the National Institutes of Health that have come under scrutiny from a group claiming the agency is wasting valuable tax dollars at a time when the country is trying to control its debt. This particular research resulted in a 2009 report titled, "The Association Between Penis Size and Sexual Health Among Men Who Have Sex with Men."
The study reported, among its findings, that gay men with "below average penises" were more likely to assume a "bottom" sexual position, while those with "above average penises" were more likely to assume a "top" sexual position. Those with average penises identified themselves as "versatile" in the bedroom.
Though it's difficult to trace exactly how much federal funding went to the project, the study was one of many linked to an $899,769 grant in 2006. The grant was administered by NIH's National Institute on Drug Abuse, and went first to a group called Public Health Solutions and a researcher with the National Development and Research Institutes before going to individual researchers.
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Thursday, June 2, 2011
How to Talk to Your Kids about Anthony Weiner’s Penis
Could Anthony Weiner’s penis hack my penis’s Twitter account and send pictures of my penis to people?
No. Anthony Weiner’s penis is too busy to do something like that.
If there is a God, why does he let so much pain and suffering happen to Anthony Weiner’s penis?
God does many wonderful things. He made you, and Mommy and Daddy, and the sun and the moon and all of the food that we eat. But sometimes God gets bored, and that’s why He made the people who invented Twitter.
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Wednesday, June 1, 2011
The Unkindest Cut? Gay Men vs. Male Circumcision
In what will be a first for the nation, San Francisco voters will consider a controversial ballot measure to ban circumcision for males under the age of 18 in the November election.
Each violation would result in a $1,000 fine and there’s no religious exemption.
If voters approve, a ban would certainly face court challenges from the city’s large and politically powerful (Diane Feinstein, e.g.) Jewish community, not to mention Muslims. Both religions trace the practice to the biblical injunction God gave Abraham in the Book of Genesis and have been practicing infant circumcision as a religious rite for thousands of years.
Groups opposing the ban are already lining up against it, but supporters passionately assert that circumcision is medically unnecessary and nothing more than genital mutilation.
One only has to visit websites whenever the subject is discussed to see how many readers ardently condemn the practice. They have been doing so for years.
For most, the controversy has been under the radar until widespread news coverage of the San Francisco ballot measure. Santa Monica voters may consider a similar referendum in November 2012.
Because California is often the trendsetter in American culture, there may be similar moves to ban circumcision elsewhere, unless such efforts are quashed by court rulings that it’s unconstitutional.
"Intactivists," as those opposing circumcision call themselves, offer a litany of reasons why it’s wrong.
They are men and women, gay and straight, who have formed organizations with members in all 50 states and some foreign countries. For several years, intactivist contingents have marched in gay pride parades in San Francisco, New York, Chicago and Vancouver, Canada.
Intactivists say circumcision traumatizes infants, sometimes results in their deaths, suppresses feelings in the penis and interferes with sexual pleasure and performance. They also point out that the vast majority (perhaps 85 percent) of males in other countries are uncut.
They dismiss out of hand contentions by the medical community that circumcision helps prevent STDs, as well as HIV.
Medical experts beg to differ, however.
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Wednesday, April 20, 2011
New Condom Graduates Junior to the Big Leagues?
There is a new condom that is supposed to make your penis bigger and harder when you wear it. The rubber will be distributed by Durex.
Read more, via Bil Browning at Bilerico.
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
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Monday, November 22, 2010
Qind is Fixated on Fellatio, and More
The phallus is designed to be stimulated and men do go to great lengths to coax their sex organ to climax. In this liberated era of sexual diversity and fetish preferences, it’s easy to forget that a tried and tested method of successful phallic arousal is oral sex. For most men, nothing beats the warm, soft and moist enclosure of an expansive mouth: an accommodating and willing orifice that knows exactly how to wet, lick, suck and rhythmically work the penis to the point of an aching, heated, shuddering and unstoppable orgasmic release!
Sunday, November 14, 2010
SF to Ban Circumcision?
via Joe.My.GodNext year San Francisco's voters may see a ballot question that would ban the circumcision of males under 18 years old.
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Thursday, September 9, 2010
Sucking, getting sucked - where does HIV fit in?
LifeLube has talked about oral sex many, many times. And our lovely Peter Pointers has also answered this very, very common question.
And we're doing it again - since it has reappeared in some of our circles - by sharing some great info from the UK's GMFA.
Excerpt:
The reason that oral sex is so much safer than getting fucked is that the throat is not as vulnerable to infection as the arse is. Saliva has properties that can disable some infections, including HIV, and so there needs to be quite a lot of HIV present for infection to take place. Also, the mouth and throat are not as efficient at absorbing liquids into the bloodstream as the lining of the arse is. Even if you swallow cum, any HIV that may be there will usually be killed by the strong acids in your stomach.
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Thursday, August 19, 2010
10 Facts You Always Wanted to Know about Penises

1. Only 6 percent of the male population needs extra-large rubbers, according to condom manufacturers. In other words, 94 percent of men lie.
2. The study most trusted by urologists shows that the average erect penis size is 5.1 inches long and 4.8 inches in girth. Unless you're in a chat room. Then double it.
3. About 80 percent of American men are circumcised, even though the American Academy of Pediatrics says it's not medically necessary. No word on why men insist on cutting something they're always exaggerating about.
4. Men really do get "blue-balls." Technically called "prostatic congestion," the achiness in the testicles is caused by "trapped" blood. You know that crap he lays on you about orgasms being the only way to relieve it? He's right. But not so fast, trampolina. So is your doctor
5. Penises are generally darker in color than the bodies they hang from. Why? It's part of the sexual maturation process, but it's also because during puberty nature introduces men to a special friend: their right hand. As Mr. Nice to Meet You Too, You Can Let Go Now will tell anybody who'll listen, your skin would darken too if you were manhandled that often.
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Want to eat some cock?
Japanese Festival
With Phallic Menu
via Village Voice, by Michael Musto
New York - April 1
On the menu: "Get It Up Hot Pot," "Big Sausage," and "Hard Banana Cream Pie."
Proper Attire Required.
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Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Aspirational masculine health - Chinese style
This large inflatable has been, um, erected in Hangzhou, in China's Zhejiang Province, to promote the upcoming 'Masculine Health Day'.
Monday, November 2, 2009
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Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Look it up in your Dicktionary
Check out this fabulous Dicktionary from the Swedes. Written by Stefan Laack, expert on male sexuality, nurse and sexual adviser, the booklet provides knowledge about the male body, focusing on the dick and its sexual functions. The text discusses anatomy, andrology, and sexual desire.
Monday, August 31, 2009
The Latest Fight Over the Foreskin

via New York Times, by Roni Caryn Rabin
In the late 19th century, Victorian-era doctors described the male foreskin as a “source of serious mischief.”
Convinced that masturbation led to insanity, and that it was the sensitive, responsive foreskin that stimulated masturbation, surgeons started promoting therapeutic circumcision to cure young men of the “sin” of excessive indulgence and prevent its corollary, “masturbatory insanity,” a catchall phrase for various psychiatric and physical disorders that perplexed physicians.
Now, in the 21st century, the foreskin has been exonerated as far as masturbation and mental illness go. But public health experts are making a pretty strong scientific case that cells in the foreskin act as a magnet for H.I.V. and, as such, may increase a man’s risk of acquiring the virus from an infected woman if he is uncircumcised.
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Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Circumcision doesn't protect gays from AIDS virus
Previous research has suggested circumcision doesn't make a difference when anal sex is involved. The latest study, by CDC researchers, looked at nearly 4,900 men who had anal sex with an HIV-infected partner and found the infection rate, about 3.5 percent, was approximately the same whether the men were circumcised or not.

via AP, by Mike Stobbe
Circumcision, which has helped prevent AIDS among heterosexual men in Africa, doesn't help protect gay men from the virus, according to the largest U.S. study to look at the question.
The research, presented at a conference Tuesday, is expected to influence the government's first guidance on circumcision.
Circumcision "is not considered beneficial" in stopping the spread of HIV through gay sex, said Dr. Peter Kilmarx, of the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
Thursday, June 11, 2009
The art of preventing genital warts

via Fridae, by Jan Wijngaarden
Read the rest.It can be quite a shock when you get them, or perhaps even more if you encounter them unexpectedly in a partner, when feeling someone up – they feel like little hard / rough cauliflower-shaped heaps on the surface of the skin. Genital warts often occur in clusters and can be very tiny or can spread into large masses in the genital or penis area, or around the anus. Click here to see an image. Be warned: It's not pretty.)
Genital (including anal) warts are caused by some subtypes of the Human Papilloma Virus (HPV), which is the most common sexually transmitted disease in many countries where data is available, including in the US, where the CDC estimates that over 20 million people are infected. It is easily transmitted, but in most people never leads to complications. This is exactly why HPV is spreading fast among gay men.
What does Peter Pointers have to say?
Check out more LifeLube posts on HPV.
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Peter, do you have any advice as to how to "resensetize" my penis?

[Peter Pointers is here 4 YOU, as a service to LifeLube readers - whatever question you may have regarding sexual healthy, physical health, mental/emotional and spiritual health - ask him. He will find the answers you are looking 4. Below is a recent Q&A you may be interested to read.]
Question: I am having serious issues achieving orgasm during intercourse. Its never happened and I've been sexually active for 2 years. I can achieve orgasm through masturbation by myself, but during intercourse, whether bottoming or topping, I just can't do it. Do you have any advice as to how to "resensetize" my penis?Answer: Thank you so much for your question. It sounds like this is a bit of a frustrating situation for you!
To help you out, I talked with Dr. Braden Berkey, Psy.D., the Director of the Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity Institute at the Center on Halsted and a private practice psychologist. He went about this issue very methodically – as if he’s come across it before (read: he has, you are not alone). This is more common than you may imagine.
The problem isn't in your penis; it is in your head. You are most likely thinking way too much during sex. Guys often experience this during their first sexual encounters or following a particularly devastating criticism of their performance. But, sometimes we just get into a state of mind that we can’t seem to shake every time we try having sex.
The trick is to take the focus off the destination and enjoy the journey. You can do that a number of ways… but it all comes down to letting your mind go. Start with massages, staying focused on the sensations you are experiencing - accepting them as they come without evaluating them. As you move into foreplay and sex, watch for any critical or distracting thoughts seeping in. It will take time to re-train your brain to turn off, so be patient.
It is also possible that there are deeper issues attached to ejaculating. If this is the case, it may take more work. Exploring this with a well trained and understanding therapist may be worth the time. Let me know if you need help finding a medical provider or therapist that is qualified to help you out!
Be Well,Peter Pointers
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