Showing posts with label gay identity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label gay identity. Show all posts

Sunday, December 30, 2012

The BEST of Lifelube - "Gay + Latino + American Dream = ?" From Monday, August 25, 2008


Gay + Latino + American Dream = ?



Reflection by Julio Maldonado
Latino Health Specialist at Howard Brown Health Center

Wow… I almost forgot…all about it!

It’s been more than 11 years since I left my country maybe “looking for the American dream” as many people say. Is this true? Who knows…? But I know who knows… I am sure I know about it!

Many, if I can say thousands, of Hispanics left our countries because we wanted to experience for ourselves all that people say when they come back from “Los Estados Unidos.” No matter where in the US, the fact was that it sounded amazing, incredible, and had many opportunities. For me, there was one more thing: to be who I want to be. No more persecution, no more mistreatment, no more hiding who I am and “who I want to be in this life.”

I am a gay man.

Of course, this demands a sacrifice, sadness and questions…. But the final decision always brought us here – to the US.

That was exactly what happened to me. I decided to come to the United Stated, but I really wanted to do it good. So I said to myself, “I want to go, but I want to go to New York.” Well, that happened. A cold and tough winter was waiting for me while leaving the JFK airport. But, I was here…and that was all that mattered….

How we see big, huge, tall buildings, I am sure is not the same way that others see them. Many times, I almost fell because my sight was focused on those incredible buildings. I heard it called “the vertical city” once. It really is, especially when I crossed to Queens and I had all that skyline. We will never forget that… never….nunca….

But, we didn’t come only to see the buildings; we came because of “the American dream.” So, at first, we felt so different, like we needed to work a lot in order to fit in here. Culture, language, the city, the thousands of people walking on the sidewalks… but we were so happy to be here… very happy!

Identification with this new culture, language, city and people; comes with time. Its timely …it’s just time…

Now, what about …. “who I want to be in this life,” because we are here for that reason too…. So, we have our first time in a club-bar, a “gay life in Los Estados Unidos.” Just as the first look to the skyline, this moment is also unforgettable. To see all the gay community together with no feelings and fears about persecution, without being mistreated by anyone, no hiding who we are: gay men.

Gay men walking on the street holding hands, kissing each other, meeting other friends on the corner of Christopher St. and 7th Avenue. It was like we were living in another world, better than we had thought; just lovely; just inspirational and full of pride. “PROUD” is a word that is not really related to gay community in our countries. But here, you start feeling it and living it. That’s great!

Hispanics, Latinos: We don’t need too much time to meet and start talking with our community co-members. “Los gringos,” there we go, saying “Hi,” “How are you,” and we go even to “What’s up?” All of that because we want to be more part of this and “who I want to be in this life.”

Unfortunately, as with all our dreams, they have painful and bad parts. And when those come to the “American dream” I can still feel my eyes getting watery.

Just to mention a few: housing, work, partners, friends, health… and many, many more that make Hispanic-Latinos think about how life was in our countries. Which one is better in the end???

To have a house with food, warm and always waiting for us every day… or no house… just worried “I don’t know where I can stay at tonight.”

To have decent work … or wake up one morning somewhere and go to our pockets and not find anything, no money, no ID, no idea of what to do…. I don’t have work, I don’t have anything to eat and still, I can see all these people sitting at sidewalk cafes having delicious good-looking, warm food?

To just chill with old gay friends in your neighborhood in your country,… or a partner, who at one point told me “I love you,” now saying “you got to leave, now.”

To having the old gay friend and knowing you can always count on him/her… or a friend telling you that is the last day in his house because you are not productive and you are giving him/her problems. And that’s all.

To living with HIV, but still my mother can understand and still is giving me housing, food, and love as she can… or I don’t know what to do. Will I die here?Alone?

What happened to the “American dream?”

Well, I understood. That’s why I told myself, this cannot happen. I need to do something, I promised myself that I will do something.

I fill my soul and all of me with courage, love, compassion, understanding and I turn more Hispanic-Latino than ever. I will get together, I will knock on doors, I will touch base with people that I believe are still there, I will be a leader, I will do whatever I have to do… and remember myself as a morning prayer that “life is just one” and nothing is done if you don’t, at least, try.

If I can do that, I will give that gift from God to anyone who will be passing through the same, the same that I passed though more than 11 years ago.

Wow… I almost forgot… all about it!

The BEST of Lifelube - "Are we Bi or is it a Lie?" From Tuesday, July 22, 2008


Are we Bi or is it a Lie?




by Barbieboy07


I'm the third letter DAMN IT,
and I want to start
being treated like it!

Why are bisexuals looked down upon in the LGBT community? Some people say that bisexual people are just confused, greedy and selfish, but it isn't like that at all. Of course there are somepeople who claim to be bisexual that aren't really bi, they could be having same sex romps for attention or to seem adventurous. Bisexuals want to love and possibly start a family just like anyone else does, and we are not all promiscuous (though some of us are), and it isn't fair to lump all of us together in that category.

The bi-phobia going on within our own community baffles me. Some gays wouldn't even consider dating a bisexual, just because they are bi. I can't understand how gays and lesbians can be so prejudiced against bisexuals. Gay people are unfortunately the product of a heterosexual and orthodox-thinking society, where anything we don't understand is categorized as weird, strange, or queer. Some hold the same mentality that their straight counterparts do about individuality.

...how DARE someone make a decision about me
based solely on my sexual orientation...

I've had gay men tell me to my face that I'm not bisexual, and that there is no such thing as being bisexual and that I'm just a greedy fag who wants the best of both worlds, gay sex and straight marriage. I was so angry I started crying, how DARE someone make a decision about me based solely on my sexual orientation, and the nerve of a gay guy (someone who should know how that feels) telling me what I am and that my sexual preference is a phase? I believe he felt that I was copping out, by not “admitting” to being gay but still acknowledging my feelings for men, he probably saw me as a liar or someone who is afraid to be himself. But I am proud of who I am, I never lie and say I'm straight or I'm gay in different circles, I may refer to myself as a fag but thats because I'm more effeminate than straight boys.

Bisexual men and women out there have been getting a bad rap for ages, and I'm sure I speak for most of us when I say I am tired of being treated like I don't belong in LGBT. I'm the third letter DAMN IT, and I want to start being treated like it! Being “Bi”sexual means we aren't biased in our sexual orientation, we are open to both men and woman, and can love bot h sexes in our relationships. It does not mean that we like sleeping with everything that moves, or that we can't make up our minds on which sex we like more. Being bi isn't a choice, it's the same as being gay or straight, we are who we are.

There are some people who are not being true to who they are. I have always believed that “real” bisexual people are people who's love transcends gender. ”Fake” bisexual people don't love equally and give the rest of us a bad name. So far I've only seen women pretending to be bi, they'll make out with another girl just to get the attention of guys. I've had friends who called themselves bisexual but only hooked up with girls when they were drunk or when they were trying to impress some guy. “I kissed a girl and I liked it”, these words have been blaring at every club in the city for the past month, but have we really listened to the words? Katy Perry's song “I kissed a girl” is a straight girl's anthem, it isn't declaring that she is “bi” just that she kissed a girl and it was fun. But being bi is more than fun, it's a lifestyle, well at least for me it is.

One question I always get asked when I let someone know I'm bisexual is “What sex are you more attracted to?” or “Who d o you see yourself marrying a man or a woman?”. I have to laugh when someone asks me this, then I reply that I like both men and women equally and I have no idea who I will marry, I can't make a decision like that on someone's sex alone. One thing I am sure of is this, I want to start a family one day, if that means marrying a woman and popping out babies so be it. I've told this to some of my gay friends and they looked at me with cynicism, calling me straight or a breeder. I can never be straight, nor do I want to be, I just want to be happy like everyone else does.

You already know how I feel about bisexuality, but how do you personally feel about it? Would you ever date a bisexual or have you before? Do you think it's just a transitional phase or a definite state?

As a society we really need to get over this bi-phobia and try to understand that 3rd letter of queer love a little bit more.

Friday, January 20, 2012

Man Boobs: Play Tackles Body Image, Sex, and Identity

via WindyCityTimes, by Tony Peregrin

A gym-built body and ripped abs ("cum gutters" in porn parlance) can make some gay men fizzy with lust, but when it comes right down to it, being with a partner who is simply comfortable in his own skin can be an even bigger turn-on—an idea that is at the center of the J. Julian Christopher's play, Man Boobs.

The Chicago premiere of Man Boobs— a dark comedy about love, body image and acceptance—opens Pride Film and Plays' 2012 season. In the one-act play, Christopher, 34, a college professor and veteran of the New York International Fringe Festival, introduces audiences to "Spence," a librarian, and "Marty," a macho truck driver who tries to get his paramour into bed—unknowingly pressuring him to reveal more than his overweight torso.

Directed by David Zak and starring Rick Heintz as Spence and Michael Hampton as Marty, Man Boobs opens Saturday, Feb. 18, at 7 Mary's Attic.

In Australia to catch the premiere of Man Boobs, Christopher fielded questions via e-mail about the play and its impact on audiences.

Windy City Times: Let's start with the title of the play: Man Boobs. Why did you select this particular title for your play?

J. Julian Christopher: Honestly, I just thought it was a funny title! I thought it was catchy and [captured] exactly what the play is about. The title doesn't ruin the reveal of the play; a lot of people think there is a revelation about Spence being self-conscious about his body, but to me that isn't a revelation. The play is about how [body image] drives Spence to handle relationships.

Man Boobs also has double meaning for me. A "boob" is often a term for someone acting stupid—and Spence and Marty both act like boobs at certain points in the play.

WCT: Is Man Boobs autobiographical?

JJC: Man Boobs is slightly autobiographical. Spence is based on myself, and Marty is an amalgamation of various men I have dated. I have sabotaged relationship after relationship based on my poor body image, and it is just now, as I have come into my 30s, that I have begun to come out of this idea of what my body "should" look like and embrace the one I have.

WCT: A recent study revealed that almost half of the gay men surveyed would give up a year or more of their lives to have a ripped, gym-body. How do the results of this survey register with you, both as a gay playwright and as a member of the bear community?

JJC: Well, I am definitely a proud member of the bear community, and I honestly hate the findings of this survey—although I think that they are, sadly, quite accurate.

Five years ago, I would have been one of the respondents to this survey who would have given up a year of my life [for this], but I think there does come a time when you finally wake up and look in the mirror and you say "Screw it." That doesn't mean throwing caution to the wind and not taking care of yourself, but it means you start to not care about your ideal of what a perfect body is because it is just that—an ideal.

The play directly deals with the findings of the survey. Spence, the main character, would probably be one of the survey respondents who would voluntarily give up a year or more of his life to look a certain way.

Truthfully, the survey says less about "gay vanity" and more about what we think makes us a better man. This thinking is skewed, and that is why the bear culture exists as it does now, in absolute defiance of that societal norm.

WCT: Man Boobs toured Montréal and Quebec in 2011 and premiered at The Midsumma Festival in Melbourne, Australia, this month. Does it surprise you that the play has struck such a chord with audiences around the world?

JJC: I am not surprised that the play is connecting with people all over the world. I think that body image and self-worth are universal themes. I am, however, often surprised by how audiences react to the piece. Audiences have gasped upon seeing the unapologetic sexuality in the play.

In the beginning, I tried to wrap my brain around why this was happening, but I think it is because straight and gay audiences are not used to seeing two large men explore their sexuality in a truthful and honest way, in a context that is not comedic—and they enjoy it!

In queer theater, we don't really see these kinds of images and it can be quite jarring.

I truly believe that it is still socially acceptable to discriminate and make fun of overweight or obese people, so when Marty and Spence kiss and are enjoying their sexuality in a truthful way, I think that makes most audiences uneasy—purely because it's something they don't see often or have ever seen.

WCT: If the overt sexuality of the play makes some audience members titter in their seats, I have to ask: Do the guys do more than simply kiss on stage?

JJC: The play has lots of sexuality in it. There is nothing more than kissing, but clothes do come off and the kissing is definitely sexual in nature, and much more than just a peck.

WCT: In a recent column on Gay.net titled "No fats, femmes or … the ugly side of online dating," the writer notes that online dating has always featured gay men candidly stating what they want from a partner or fuck buddy in terms of physicality—but with the immediacy afforded by technology and apps like Grindr, these physical expectations have actually gotten more extreme. Do you agree?

JJC: I think that online personal ads are based on the ultimate sexual fantasy. I have also seen personal ads looking for overweight men, men with small penises and men with flat feet. I think that personal ads ultimately serve on purpose—sexual fulfillment.

If people are on Grindr looking for dates, then there is a bigger issue at hand. Finding someone you connect with or a future partner is a different story. I think, inevitably, we learn that what we thought was "our type" isn't always the person we end up with.

WCT: You also produce a Web-based drama series, BULK, which follows the character of Leo Durán as he returns to the New York City bear scene after a devastating break-up. Are you trying to reach the same audience with BULK as you are with Man Boobs?

JJC: I created this series along with D.R. Knott. We wanted to give voice to underrepresented communities, and I believe that the bear community is one of those communities.

The series does have a similar audience as Man Boobs, but that's not to say that I don't want other audiences who are not bears to think that these shows are not meant for them.

I write about relationships—and these guys just happen to be big and furry. I think both BULK and Man Boobs celebrate the sexuality of the bear culture, and the notion is that these characters are real men—they just happen to be larger.


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Friday, November 18, 2011

Does Gay Sex make one Homosexual?

via blackgaymensblog, by Storm

The previous blog post about black gay and bisexual men seducing straight men prompted a lot discussion on Facebook and on Skype.

I decided to start a separate dialog, because there was a lot of focus on whether or not a man could be considered straight if he has had gay sex.

For me, the previous blog post had more to do with wanting someone, who was unattainable and lusting after straight men, who are often perceived as sexually superior, than whether or not straight men who might engage in gay sex are still heterosexual.

The minute straight men are mentioned on Black Gay Men’s Blog, some of us immediately lose sight of the totality of the article and focus on whether or not straight men, who engage in gay sex can still be straight.  So, I thought we could explore that here.

Personally, I do not believe that engaging in gay sex once makes a man(or woman) gay. I don’t believe sexuality is that clear cut – it all depends on the circumstances surrounding the sexual encounter.

I am not suggesting homosexuality is a choice, but I think engaging in homosexual acts can be. Let me make one thing clear, I am not talking about repetitive, on-going sexual encounters or referring to those men, who might be in denial. 

I think that any man who has gay sex for a prolonged period of time, or has numerous male sexual partners is at the very least bisexual.

Especially, if he does so when he has free access to women and the life of a loved one is not threatened.  This is just my opinion and not the opinion of other contributors on Black Gay Men’s Blog. 

I have never claimed to be politically correct 100% of the time. Quite frankly, I prefer being thought-provoking and getting us to have some sort of dialog, than being politically-correct.

I think some gay men are too quick to want to label anyone who has had homosexual sex as gay or no longer straight. Sexuality is simply not that black and white – not all sexual encounters define one’s sexuality.

The label “gay” is a western concept and there are societies, in which that label doesn’t exist and others where the gender of one’s sexual partners is not as big a deal as it might be here in the USA. 

In those societies, “gay” is not a political statement  and Black Gay Men’s Blog does have readers from all corners of the globe, so I try to look at things more broadly.

We don’t have to agree, but we can respect and maybe learn from one another.


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Friday, September 17, 2010

LifeLube HEARTS our sexuality - do you HEART yours?

Our program focuses on promoting sexual health in young people, which is more than just the absence of diseases like HIV. Being healthy also means having positive romantic relationships and accepting ones sexuality.


The IMPACT Program at the University of Illinois at Chicago announced the release of its new educational campaign entitled “I Heart My Sexuality”. The campaign is a series of videos gathered from interviews in the community that highlight the strengths of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) youth, instill pride in the community, and tell stories of healthy relationships. The IMPACT team set up a video booth at the 2010 Chicago Pride Festival and Dyke March and asked people to share their stories. The videos were created in partnership with BeyondMedia Education, an award winning non-profit organization dedicated to using media for social change.

According to Dr. Brian Mustanski, the Director of the IMPACT Program, “we created these videos because our research with LGBT young people shows that they want to learn more about healthy same-sex relationships. Our program focuses on promoting sexual health in young people, which is more than just the absence of diseases like HIV. Being healthy also means having positive romantic relationships and accepting ones sexuality.”

The first set of videos, set to launch September 21st 2010, explore relationships, being single, and the important of family and community. With over a hundred interviews of LGBT young people, the videos show a diverse group of people discussing why they “heart” their sexuality.

In addition to videos, the IMPACT team collected nearly two hundred post cards on which people wrote positive and encouraging notes regarding why they love their sexual orientation. The post cards were just released on the IMPACT website, allowing users to review the cards and read the inspiring and sometimes funny messages.

The I Heart My Sexuality campaign will be hosted on the IMPACT program website and YouTube page. Later stages of the campaign will include interviews with same-sex couples and will also be hosted at the IMPACT website. To view the I Heart My Sexuality campaign, check out www.impactprogram.org after September 21st!

The IMPACT Program is in the Institute for Juvenile Research at the University of Illinois at Chicago and conducts translational research on LGBT Health and Development. By “translational,” we mean that we seek to identify health issues, understand factors that put people at risk or protect them, and turn that knowledge into programs that advance the health of LGBT people and communities.

Saturday, June 5, 2010

Gay? What-evah....

 via New York Times, by Charles M. Blow


The dire predictions for diversity have not only not come true, but, in fact, they’ve been proved the other way.


Last week, while many of us were distracted by the oil belching forth from the gulf floor and the president’s ham-handed attempts to demonstrate that he was sufficiently engaged and enraged, Gallup released a stunning, and little noticed, report on Americans’ evolving views of homosexuality. Allow me to enlighten:

1. For the first time, the percentage of Americans who perceive “gay and lesbian relations” as morally acceptable has crossed the 50 percent mark. (You have to love the fact that they still use the word “relations.” So quaint.)

2. Also for the first time, the percentage of men who hold that view is greater than the percentage of women who do.

3. This new alignment is being led by a dramatic change in attitudes among younger men, but older men’s perceptions also have eclipsed older women’s. While women’s views have stayed about the same over the past four years, the percentage of men ages 18 to 49 who perceived these “relations” as morally acceptable rose by 48 percent, and among men over 50, it rose by 26 percent.

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Friday, September 18, 2009

The Advocate Goes Out in Cuba



Photographer Byron Motley takes the Advocate on a photo tour of Havana -- a journey few Americans get to take -- and gets up close and personal with Cuba’s gay and transgender community.

Check out all the pics and hear the story behind each.

Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Black Manhood, Same Gender Love, and Civil Rights


Often when I have these discussions in the Black community, someone gets up talking about reproduction. To reproduce or to not reproduce being the measure of who deserves the most rights or respect. This is not logical because most sex that people have, including heterosexual sex, is not to reproduce.
-- Cleo Manago, founder AmASSI Health & Cultural Centers

Read the article on Echelon.

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

How is Keith Green healthy?


Maintaining the audacity to dream, and to live my dreams in spite of everything in the world that conspires against them, keeps me healthy.

I was born into a world that valued nothing about me. I was male, but I was a black male. Strike one. The family from which I came was of this society’s lower-middle class, at best. Strike two. And though nobody could have known it at the time, I would grow to prefer the emotional and physical intimacy of other men. OUT, indeed (pun intended)!

That said, healthy came for me the day I woke up and decided that this world does not possess the power, nor the measures, to determine my worth. I miraculously came to understand that it is God who has created me, beautifully complex as I am. And, if everything that God created is in fact good, then God must certainly be all good with the creation that is me. I would even go so far as to speculate that God has a special love for me, because I am bold enough to accept this truth and to walk in it.

Making the choice to walk in this truth brings about a certain sense of power (commonly referred to in my hood as “swag”). This power allows its possessors the ability to dream impossible dreams, and then have the unwavering faith to actually experience them come to fruition. It’s the same power, or swag, that made Barack Obama foolish enough to believe that he could become the first Black man elected to the office of President of these United States of America.

I am healthy because I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that whatever I put my swag to…shall be. And every single day, I let it be.

-- Keith Green
Chicago


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Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Coming out to God


The Intimate Dance of Sexuality and Spirituality
via Queering the Church

Sexuality and spirituality are not opposing g forces, as is frequently supposed today. Instead, both draw people into relationship. Sexuality draws us into physical relationships: touching, hugging…… kissing and intercourse.
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Friday, May 22, 2009

Homosex in Colonial America - Larry Kramer


via Huffington Post, by Larry Kramer

No, there was no right word for it that you wanted to use for it if you were doing it. Buggery and sodomy connoted anal penetration and thus were, in many places, punishable by death.

That does not mean that men did not know they were gay (to use today's word), know what to do with their cocks, know when they were smitten with other men, know where to go to find them, know what it meant to get violently rejected, or the reverse, find a friend, in other words, the whole gestalt, to use another of today's terms. A penis has never been something that you pick up and put down and put away idly without consideration.

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Thursday, May 21, 2009

Give yourself permission


... to be yourself!

via Gay.com, by Michael Moniz

Just because you do not fit the standard mold of a gay male, doesn't mean you need to change to try to cram yourself into a wrong fit. Isn't it time you give yourself permission to just be yourself?

When we think of a typical gay male, our mind takes us to all the stereotypical images we see from all the gay movies, magazines, websites, of a young, tall, handsome, male who never looks a day over 25. Almost all gay males spend all their time working to maintain this image or to achieve this look.

Of course this image doesn't represent the whole gay community. It doesn't even represent the majority, it represents the few who have the genes, the metabolism and the youth to keep it up. In time, we will all get older and we all have to face what life has given us.

I have tons of clients who struggle with this exact issue each day. I receive emails and questions from gay men stressing about their looks and fitting in. I figure it is time I share the solution which will save you all from all this work and allow you once and for all to put this topic to rest....STOP DOING IT!

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Monday, April 13, 2009

What is a gay icon anywho?

LifeLube recommends:

Judy, Barbra, Liza—And Little Edie

How the 'Grey' ladies, and their ilk, became the gays' ladies.

If you're a friend of Dorothy, are you duty-bound to idolize Judy Garland? If you're not the marrying kind, are you genetically predisposed to find Joan Crawford a role model? And if you bat for the other team, why should an adaptation of a 34-year-old documentary about two crazy-cat ladies living in a crumbling, raccoon-infested Hamptons pile send shivers of ecstasy up and down your hotblooded homo spine?

Read the rest, by Alan Cumming, on Newsweek.

Monday, March 30, 2009

Please Consider Justice and Inclusivity for ALL Populations As You Reform Health Care


Dear President Obama,


Please Consider Justice and Inclusivity for ALL Populations As You Reform Health Care

As LGBT Illinoisans, we know your commitment to this cause. Your record in support of civil rights for all and health care reform speaks for itself. You want a more inclusive, healthier world with less health disparities and stronger community health. A world where lesbian and bisexual women do not suffer from disproportionately high rates of smoking, alcohol use, obesity, and lack of insurance that place them at higher risk for breast cancer, heart disease, diabetes, depression, addiction, and other chronic, life-threatening illnesses. A world where gay and bisexual men do not suffer from disproportionately high rates of psycho-emotional disorders, addictions, and (most notably) HIV/AIDS. A world where transgender folks are able to be healthy and live free from violence.

With National LGBT Health Awareness Week just past, March 9-14, 2009, and health care reform gaining momentum, we must remember some basic priorities.

The LGBT population must be included in health care reform. When considering the topic of health care reform, you must not ignore the great social injustice being suffered by the groups of greatest health disparity. Therefore, I call on you to ensure that any healthcare reform be inclusive of LGBT folks. For the past eight years, we have had to be present, but invisible in the national health conversation.

By making health care reform inclusive of the LGBT community, healthcare settings could become safe, helpful places rather than venues of shame, stigma, and prejudice. Preventative practices and messages would be appropriate and inclusive, reducing the cost of reactionary treatment to preventable disease. We will not have to use the emergency room as our primary health care provider as so many of us without insurance are forced to do. Instead, we will know that providers have knowledge about our true risks, best practices for how to care for us, and how to be respectful of our families and identities.

The LGBT population must be included in data collection – so that we can understand the truths of our bodies and lives. The need for accurate, inclusive data is two-fold: 1) if we don’t know what is wrong in our community, we can’t fix it and 2) data is the basis for all federal support and funding for health initiatives. Our national surveys don’t include sexual orientation and gender identity questions. We need these tools to accurately understand what problems all of us face so we can solve them. Furthermore, without data about health issues in our population, the LGBT population is consistently overlooked by federal programs.

By making health care reform and research LGBT-inclusive, we will be able to better care for the entire community. These reforms will affect the most vulnerable members of our community – those who can’t choose a health care provider based on what their website profile says, but who delay care until crisis strikes. If health care reform is LGBT-inclusive, our doctors, nurses and staffs will be better able to care for all of their patients and our nation’s health will improve.

Michael C. Cook
President and CEO
Howard Brown Health Center
Chicago

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Journal article: "Is ‘bareback’ a useful construct in primary HIV-prevention? Definitions, identity and research"


by A. Carballo-Diéguez, A. Ventuneac, J. Bauermeister, G. W. Dowsett, C. Dolezal, R. H. Remien I. and Balan M. Rowe, January 2009,Culture, Health & Sexuality.

The terms bareback and bareback identity are increasingly being used in academic discourse on HIV/AIDS without clear operationalisation. Using in depth,face-to-face interviews with an ethnically diverse sample of 120 HIVinfected and -uninfected men, mainly gay-identifying and recruited online in New York City, this study explored respondents’ definitions of bareback sex, the role that intentionality and risk played in those definitions, and whether respondents identified as ‘barebackers’. Results showed overall agreement with a basic definition of bareback sex as condomless anal intercourse, but considerable variation on other elements. Any identification as barebacker appeared too loose to be of use from a public health prevention perspective. To help focus HIV prevention efforts, we propose a re-conceptualisation that contextualises risky condomless anal intercourse and distinguishes between behaviours that are intentional and may result in HIV-primary transmission from those that are not.

Read the article here (housed on the IRMA website.)

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Bisexual rugby player takes things in stride


Chris Clemmow's teammates in England set him up with guys in a culture where same-sex attraction is no big deal.

...The boy doesn’t dance, he doesn’t dress particularly well, and it is rare to see him publicly gawk over a passing male. Conversely, he doesn’t act in stereotypical macho ways either. He doesn’t sexualize women, posture himself as aggressive, or talk obsessively about sport. He is just Chris....

Read the whole thing, by Eric Anderson on Outsports.

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

People often think I'm gay, and I quite like the ambiguity of that


What I know about women
Mathew Horne, actor, 3o, in a relationship

via guardian.co.uk The Observer

People often think I'm gay, and I quite like the ambiguity of that. I think we should be in a society where everybody is free and not suppressed by restrictive ideas about sexuality. So I would say I'm a gay straight man or a straight gay, whichever one is semantically correct. I don't want to have sex with men, that's all. It doesn't upset me, it doesn't disgust me; I just don't want to do it. Everything else about me is pretty gay. Women react to that in different ways, really. They either find it intriguing or threatening.

Read the rest.

Thursday, February 26, 2009

Connecting the Dots - Podcast Series Focuses on Black Gay Men

NASTAD is pleased to release the second installment of its Connecting the Dots podcast series focusing on black gay men. In this four-part podcast, NASTAD explores black gay men’s sexuality through interviews with Patrick Wilson, Assistant Professor in the Department of Social Medical Sciences at the Mailman School of Public Health at Columbia University, and Terrance Moore, Associate Director for NASTAD’s racial and ethnic health disparities program. The questions and answers in this podcast challenge listeners to consider a range of issues, both profound and superficial, that influence the health and wellness of black gay men.

Part one of the podcast, released on February 5, 2009, explored identity, masculinity and femininity and sexual objectification and mystique of black gay men (part one transcript). Part two explores racism, gender identity and sexual roles (part two transcript). Parts three and four will be released over the upcoming month and will explore pop culture and media, self-value, power and privilege and will connect the dots between all issues covered in the podcast series. (Please note: each podcast is approximately 35MB, so please be patient during the download.)

After listening to the podcast, we encourage listeners to visit NASTAD’s blog to leave comments. By sharing insights and ideas, we believe listeners can help one another better understand the contexts in which behaviors occur, in which programs and services are delivered and in which policies are made. To this end, we also encourage you to share this podcast series with your colleagues.

Please watch for additional Connecting the Dots podcasts throughout the year. We also invite you to view other NASTAD publications focusing on Black gay men and other important topics by visiting NASTAD’s website.

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Drum Roll: The 2009 Gay Men's Health Agenda

PROMOTING GAY MEN’S HEALTH 2009:
A TIME FOR ACTION
Click here for a word document version of this agenda.
For too long gay men’s health has focused mostly on HIV/AIDS, to the detriment of other health conditions that have direct and indirect ties to HIV/AIDS. These other issues are not limited to, but include: mental health, the effects of forced sexual experiences, external and internalized homophobia, substance abuse, lack of knowledge on male specific health issues (ex: anal health, foreskin health, etc), and lack of testing for sexually transmitted infections among others.
-Lee Carson, Philadelphia


We need a high-level effort at the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services to coordinate the inclusion of LGBT in our nation's health goals. Reform of our healthcare systems must begin with a recognition that Healthy People and Healthy Communities must include gay men, and a healthy nation cannot be achieved unless it includes all Americans.

-A. Cornelius Baker, Washington, DC

We demand that the agencies responsible for leading the federal government's response to the AIDS crisis take the lead in announcing and orchestrating as a public health priority an explicit, multi-faceted, multi-year campaign against homophobia, stigma and discrimination against sexual diversity.
-Walt Senterfitt, Los Angeles

In smaller cities, towns, and rural communities, even gay-identified men continue to live in and with communities and families of birth, a pattern which encourages secrecy, invisibility, and social isolation. This is compounded by a lack of gay-specific social infrastructure, socially supported relationship stability, legally supported stability (including legal coupling, legal family-building), religious inclusion and in a large number of cases, the additional complexities of living in the South as a person of color and/or a person living in poverty.
-Southern AIDS Coalition

The Gay Men's Health Movement consists of formal and informal collaborations of gay men, bisexual men, transgender men, and our allies, who are advocating – worldwide - for access to health care, health care utilization strategies and training, affordable and comprehensive health insurance, and effective, culturally appropriate services across the life course.

Gay, bisexual and trans men are healthy, productive and vital members of the United States. The movement is committed to an expansive vision of health and wellness addressing many challenges, current and emerging. We continue to confront the HIV/AIDS epidemic which disproportionately impacts gay and bisexual men of all colors, particularly Black and Latino gay men and especially young Black gay men. Substance abuse and dependency is of high concern, as are,; mental health and other social challenges including racism, institutional and otherwise; and violence arising from homophobia, biphobia and transphobia. In addition, we focus on the harms associated with poverty and inadequate housing, incarceration, unemployment or marginal employment within our communities; and harms associated with lack of culturally appropriate and responsive services, and/or lack of services entirely.

We understand that many of our health challenges arise in complex associations with each other (e.g. HIV and substance abuse, poverty and sexually transmitted infections, homelessness and victimization to violence, stigma and mental health disorders, etc) and therefore must be assessed, treated, and managed holistically. Moreover, other social determinants impact our health and wellness, such as lack of comprehensive, age appropriate health and sexuality education in our schools, homophobia and transphobia in law enforcement practices, and unresponsive health and social service systems across most of the nation.

In addition to understanding the personal, biological, environmental, social, cultural and political conditions that challenge our well being and lead to illness; our movement is committed to understanding and sustaining those conditions that increase our health, wellness, vitality, and longevity. The syndemic, co-morbid and collateral characteristics which shape the disparities we face demand a response that goes beyond the clinical and institutional to a broad and sustained mobilization that cuts across and includes multiple communities. We have vast strengths and assets to confront these challenges. Community-building and advocacy efforts are important features of our movement. Together we must strive to sustain a movement that builds our assets and works to reduce our deficits as individuals, loving partners, and communities across a broad and diverse spectrum of gay, bisexual and transgender men.

Within our own communities, too, our members experience a wide range of access to services, resources and referrals which leads to disparate health outcomes for many. The concerns of gay, bisexual, and transgender men of color and men in rural and frontier communities are not always heard. Similary, immigrant men may struggle to join our communities even as they concurrently aim to adapt to broader American society. Men without the advantages of income, education, housing, and supportive friendships also are made invisible. While the historic and current impact of racism traditionally impacts Black gay men most directly – all of us are affected negatively. We are committed to overcoming these deficits within our own communities.

Support for well-designed and focused research into the health-related needs of our communities is a priority. Much of this research establishes with overwhelming confidence that gay, bisexual, and transgender men, often defined in public health as MSM, experience significant health disparities when compared with heterosexual men. Research must focus on which assets and programmatic interventions work to reduce disparities and produce health and wellness in collaborative and supportive ways. The lack of accurate and sensitive data collection and analysis about gay, bisexual, and trans men’s health is yet another hazard.. Few longitudinal studies exist to help guide our health care providers, or assist us as consumers. Best practices have not been articulated or disseminated. Randomized controlled trials have not included gay, bisexual, and transgender men as they should. Research regarding technologies important to our communities (e.g. rectal microbicides) has been woefully neglected. We support the need for more scientifically designed research to understand and improve our health. In addition, this research should always begin with direct collaboration with gay, bisexual, and transgender , from inception and implementation, to dissemination of findings and beyond.
One of the most tragic things that our collective experience as gay men living with, among, and around HIV, has robbed us of, is our ability to imagine. We have to imagine. This is a necessity. And for this to happen, we have to bring and centralize artists in the work of gay men’s health.
- Charles Stephens, Atlanta

Gay men are not only impacted by HIV policy, but we are also directly impacted by economic justice issues, immigration policies, and national security-- so we need to be involved in those issues. We also need to fight policies even when-- or perhaps especially when-- they don't appear to directly impact gay men, and we need to let others guide us in their movements.

- Fred Swanson, Seattle

Presently, HIV prevention in the U.S. lacks the resources & comprehensiveness that will significantly drive down HIV incidence rates.
- George Ayala, San Francisco, CA

Our communities must operate in the spirit of collaboration and must be reflective of RADICAL INCLUSIVITY. We must rally around our commonality and strive together. And specific to the development of leadership we must take charge through action in each step of our individual and collective daily actions. Be present in each moment, WE are together, however different we may look, act, talk and see
-Kaijson Noilmar,Seattle

Recommendations for Policymakers: Improving Gay Men’s Health and Lives

We have been hard at work. Since the early 1970s, with the formation of volunteer based STD and community health clinics, gay, bisexual, transgender men and our allies have been engaged in creating culturally appropriate health care services for our communities. These early efforts have expanded to a nation-wide system of LGBT health care centers in our major urban areas. These centers were essential to our community’s early response to the HIV epidemic. Many of these centers continue to suffer from inadequate financial support and numerous smaller cities and rural areas are in need of such services.

Since the mid-1990s, there have been a number of national and regional conferences and meetings in the United States organized for leaders in the gay men’s health movement to share information and resources, caucus, restore our energy and clarify our vision, and to develop resources and strategies for improving the health of our communities. Often, these forums have been held in partnership with lesbians, transgender women, public health providers, medical and other clinical providers, scientific and policy communities, community leaders and other activists. We have been in ongoing contact with each other to think, research, plan and work holistically and in coalition. A significant outcome of these efforts was the founding of the National Coalition for LGBT Health, the Gay Men’s Health Summits and the formation of a working group on LGBT health at the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.

Most recently, to spur the development of a gay men’s health advocacy plan, Project CRYSP – a Chicago Department of Public Health gay men's health collaboration among four agencies – began soliciting input from a variety of stakeholders across the country in April 2008.They were asked to share their vision of a 2009 Gay Men's Health Agenda – to list the objectives and strategies needed to advance our health and well-being. Twenty-one participants, representing a wide spectrum of organizations and demographically diverse individuals, submitted the policy initiatives, advocacy objectives and the activities they felt were essential to a comprehensive gay men's health agenda for 2009. Submitted in the form of blog posts, the ideas were published on the LifeLube blog – a gay men's health and wellness portal (yes, this one!) – with comments and discussion strongly encouraged.

[You may read each of the 21 submitted articles here]

An analysis was conducted of the ideas presented through this process and an overview of the process and collected input was presented to 200 gay, bisexual and transgender men’s health leaders and advocates at the closing session of the 2008 National Gay Men's Health Summit in Seattle, October,, 2008. Feedback and additional ideas were recorded during the extensive open discussion portion of the session. This entire process informs this document.

As a new Administration and Congress sets a course for America, with a focus on health care reform, leaders of the gay men’s health movement join with the National Coalition for LGBT Health and other allies in advocating for policies and resources to advance the health and well being of gay, bisexual, and transgender men.

Improve the care, housing and genuine health promotion for HIV-positive people.
- Michael Scarce, San Francisco

Our doctors are not telling us to stop smoking without reason. In case you are thinking it is just the party line that healthcare providers have to say, similar to “just lose weight”, allow me to restate it out of love. It is in each of our best interests as gay and bisexual men living with HIV/AIDS to quit smoking immediately!
-Kali Lindsey, Washington, DC

For gay and lesbian youth, for trans youth, for all youth – not having comprehensive, queer- and transgender-affirming sex education, is irresponsible, unethical and life-threatening.
-Lance Toma, San Francisco


RECOMMENDATIONS:


1. Fund and expand social, behavioral and biomedical research. Due to the health disparities gay, bisexual and transgender men endure, it is essential that more research is conducted to inform the community and clinicians as to the reasons for these disparities, find solutions to improving the health of the population, and to track and monitor health care outcomes. Sadly, research into the sexual health and wellbeing of our communities has often been demonized as morally offensive research or mischaracterized in its intent. This must end. We demand adequate funding for social, behavioral and biomedical research - including longitudinal and lifecourse studies, and random controlled trials. The research must include our diversity, as well as underserved and underrepresented communities, especially African American and Latino communities, as well as Asian/Pacific Island, Native American and other communities of color, and the impacted youth of those populations, all transgender men, and men outside urban centers as well as other other underserved regions. Attention to both current and emerging needs is paramount.

2. Develop and fund data collection efforts on sexual orientation and gender identity in all federally funded research. Vital to successful research and intervention are adequate data.. We must be represented, along with lesbians, and all bisexual and transgender men and women, in all appropriate municipal, state, and federal population, workforce, demographic, and health studies, surveys and research. There are no reasonable excuses for excluding us, since we are part of every population, part of every school and workplace, consumers of health care and other services, residents of every community, and taxpayers to local, state and federal governments.

3. Fund campaigns to combat homophobia, biphobia, and transphobia. In partnership with our communities we call for local, state and federal funding, community foundation funding, faith community funding, and other support to combat ignorance, hatred and misunderstanding. We must address prejudice and build bridges across diverse communities; increase family, school, and community acceptance for LGBT youth; reduce stigma in health care and other services; and overcome discrimination in the workplace. We call for adequate funding for these programs, and we are ready to lead these efforts.

4. Eliminate No Promo Homo. We recognize that the delivery of culturally appropriate and responsive health information is dependent on setting and context. Grounded in science-based evidence, we insist on being allowed to speak within our communities effectively. Therefore, we demand the removal of state and federal legislation that serve no scientific purpose. For example, we should immediately repeal Section 2500 of the federal Public Health Service Act (42 U.S.C. Section 300ee(b), (c), and (d)) that does not allow the “promotion” of any type of sexual behaviour – heterosexual or homosexual. This language debilitates programs that are funded to reach sexually active adults of all backgrounds.

5. Create an Office for LGBT Health at HHS. We request the appointment of a Senior Advisor or Office for LGBT Health at the United States Department of Health and Human Services to provide focused and sustained leadership and guidance for HHS, and other departments and agencies with connections to LGBT health. We stand ready to join advisory panels at HHS, and other departments and agencies, to complement, or in preparation, for this Office.

6. Develop and implement a strategy to reduce health disparities among gay, bisexual and transgender men through direct programmatic funding. With leadership from a Senior Advisor or Office of LGBT Health, funding from both governmental and private sources would be coordinated with the goals of reducing disparities in the health of gay, bisexual and transgender men - including HIV/AIDS, substance abuse and dependency (for example, cigarette smoking and methamphetamines), mental health and other social issues, and violence victimization (including hate violence and intimate partner violence). Improving access to culturally competent, responsive, qualityhealth care must be prioritized through community specific efforts or legislation for universal health care coverage.

7. Implement and fund sexual health and wellness campaigns directed towards the gay, bisexual and transgender men’s communities utilizing an array of public and private resources. Through both public and private sources, these campaigns should ensure that both LGBT and non-LGBT health and social service organizations support male-to-male sexuality, and bisexuality, while promoting sexual health and overall wellness for the gay, bisexual and transgender men’s communities. Distinct populations must be focused on individually and should include African Americans, Latinos, and Asian/Pacific Island men, older men, men with disabilities, men who have primary partners, serodiscordant partners, men in recovery, young men and others.

8. Develop and implement a strategy to remove barriers to health care among transgender people through legal changes and education of medical and health insurance professionals.
We must revise the standards of care for gender transition to replace the "gatekeeping" model with a model of informed consent, and we must end the discriminatory practices that deny health insurance to transgender people and that deny coverage for certain procedures that are covered for non-trans people.


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GETTING INVOLVED IN THE 2009 GAY MEN’S HEALTH AGENDA

Dear friends and colleagues,

We are asking you to sign on to the 2009 Gay Men’s Health Agenda, but we also want you to own it. We consider it to be a living document, and we want your voice to be a part of it. To join in, there are three things you can do right away to get involved:

Endorse the agenda: Send your name and city/town and country to gaymenshealthagenda@gmail.com. We’ll keep you up-to-date on the next steps and actions that are taken by gay men and allies around the world. You may endorse as an individual, as an organization, or both. If you are endorsing on behalf of an organization, please ensure the organization has authorized as such. Click here to circulate a word document version of the document.

Increase your Awareness:
Become acquainted with some of the participants and ideas of the gay men’s health movement. Check out http://gaymenshealth.ning.com.

Weigh in on the agenda at the Gay Men’s Health Agenda workgroup on the Ning: http://gaymenshealth.ning.com/group/2009gaymenshealthagenda.

Take Action: You can get involved. Make healthy decisions for yourself. Bring these ideas to your local community and organize, organize, organize. Talk to your friends. Write a blog article. Discuss gay men’s health on Facebook, Twitter and other social networking means. Advocate with your elected government officials at the local, state and national levels – tell them you want to see gay men’s health prioritized. Check in with local organizations to find out what they are doing for gay men’s health. Organize a project to end smoking, create a social group to fight isolation, give voice to the particular health issues of HIV positive men, create safe places to celebrate HIV status and many others. You have the power to create something new yourself.


We believe that gay men and their allies can cause a revolution in health care access and awareness. We want you to be part of the work.

In solidarity,

The 2009 Gay Men’s Health Agenda Workgroup

List of endorsers in formation

Email your endorsement gaymenshealthagenda@gmail.com

Friday, February 6, 2009

Weak at the knees...


When we play, we live in the sensation!

By using condoms and lube, testing regularly for STIs, and remembering the more partners we have, the more often we should be test, we reduce our risk so we can give in to the moment.


From Australia's Acon and whytest.org, a great resource for info like:

What is an STI?
How would I know if I have one?
STI fact sheets: Viruses | Parasites | Bacteria | Fungi

God we love the Aussies!
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