tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-51472633754622292492024-03-05T19:00:03.448-06:00LifeLubeYour field guide to gay men's health. The blog is no longer active, but is still available to use as an information resource.NewPrevTechhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05705781012925480028noreply@blogger.comBlogger475818truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5147263375462229249.post-84872695441010251082012-12-31T20:00:00.000-06:002012-12-31T20:00:07.958-06:00LifeLube blog and website have come to the end of their road.<br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">It is with mixed feelings we announce that after 7 fabulous years, the LifeLube blog and website have come to the end of their road. Our last blog post will be on December 31, 2012.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">We are profoundly grateful to <a href="http://www.aidschicago.org/" style="color: #7d181e; text-decoration: initial;" target="_blank"><span style="color: #0070c0;">AIDS Foundation of Chicago</span></a></span><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;"> (AFC), </span><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">and the organizational partners of<a href="https://remote.aidschicago.org/owa/redir.aspx?C=a1ff5fb26afb4455bcb49f1e87b6fff8&URL=http%3a%2f%2fwww.lifelube.org%2fabout.php" style="color: #7d181e; text-decoration: initial;" target="_blank"><span style="color: black;"> Project CRYSP</span></a> and <span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">the Sexual Health Xchange</span> </span>a<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">nd all of our fabulous LibeLube readers/followers/friends who have been with us for all these years. During this time, LifeLube has been a platform for ongoing discussion and debate that has informed and promoted the overall health and wellness of gay men and the broader LGBT community. Some of the special initiatives we are very proud of have included the development of a community-led Gay Men's Health Agenda, our friendly gay men's health avatar "<a href="https://remote.aidschicago.org/owa/redir.aspx?C=a1ff5fb26afb4455bcb49f1e87b6fff8&URL=http%3a%2f%2fwww.lifelube.org%2fexperts.php" style="color: #7d181e; text-decoration: initial;" target="_blank"><span style="color: black;">Peter Pointers</span></a>" , the internationally recognized "<a href="https://remote.aidschicago.org/owa/redir.aspx?C=a1ff5fb26afb4455bcb49f1e87b6fff8&URL=http%3a%2f%2flifelube.blogspot.com%2fsearch%2flabel%2fhow%2520are%2520you%2520healthy%253F" style="color: #7d181e; text-decoration: initial;" target="_blank"><span style="color: black;">How are you healthy?</span></a>" campaign, and the "first booty" tale of anal health reported via "Andrew's Anus."</span><span style="font-family: Tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 8pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">And we hope you enjoyed "Friday is For Faeries", "Woof Wednesday", and other bits of sexy, fun, whimsy and queerness we tried to weave throughout everything we presented.</span><span style="font-family: Tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 8pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">We thank all of our fabulous blog contributors including (but certainly not limited to) <a href="https://remote.aidschicago.org/owa/redir.aspx?C=a1ff5fb26afb4455bcb49f1e87b6fff8&URL=http%3a%2f%2flifelube.blogspot.com%2fsearch%2flabel%2fSister%2520Glo" style="color: #7d181e; text-decoration: initial;" target="_blank"><span style="color: black;">Sister Glo</span></a>, <a href="https://remote.aidschicago.org/owa/redir.aspx?C=a1ff5fb26afb4455bcb49f1e87b6fff8&URL=http%3a%2f%2flifelube.blogspot.com%2fsearch%2flabel%2fPistol%2520Pete" style="color: #7d181e; text-decoration: initial;" target="_blank"><span style="color: black;">Pistol Pete</span></a>, D'Ontace, Mark Hubbard, Justin, Chris, Charles, Sebastino, and <u><a href="http://thework-in.blogspot.com/" style="color: #7d181e; text-decoration: initial;"><span style="color: #3d85c6;">Ed Negron for the Work-ins</span></a></u></span><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">, </span><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">and the many amazing folks who shared their personal, creative, and inspiring efforts at staying healthy - physically, sexually, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. And finally we give big thanks with hugs and kisses to the person who made LifeLube possible the lovely <a href="http://lifelube.blogspot.com/search/label/Jim%20Pickett" style="color: #7d181e; text-decoration: initial;" target="_blank"><span style="color: #0070c0;">Jim Pickett</span></a></span><span style="color: #0070c0; font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">, Director of Prevention Advocacy and Gay Men's Health at AFC.</span><span style="font-family: Tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 8pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">The content on both the LifeLube blog and website is going offline, but will be archived. Should you wish to access content that was featured on the blog or website, you may send us an email request at <span style="color: #0b5394;"><a href="mailto:lifelube@gmail.com" style="color: #7d181e; text-decoration: initial;" target="_blank"><span style="color: #0b5394;">lifelube@gmail.com</span></a> </span>and we will do our best to accommodate you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">Although, the LifeLube blog and website are being retired, our efforts at raising public awareness and promoting a healthy community for gay and bisexual men - and the broader LGBT community - remain important and will not end.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">AIDS Foundation of Chicago <a href="http://www.aidschicago.org/" style="color: #7d181e; text-decoration: initial;" target="_blank"><span style="color: #0b5394;">www.aidschicago.org</span></a></span><span style="font-family: Tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 8pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">Know Your HIV Status <a href="http://www.aidschicago.org/i-need-hiv-testing" style="color: #6e3807;" target="_blank"><span style="color: #0b5394;">www.aidschicago.org/i-need-hiv-testing</span></a></span><span style="font-family: Tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 8pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">International Rectal Microbicide Advocates <a href="http://www.rectalmicrobicides.org/" style="color: #7d181e; text-decoration: initial;" target="_blank"><span style="color: #0b5394;">www.rectalmicrobicides.org</span></a></span><span style="font-family: Tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 8pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">You can also continue to follow the daily motivational messages from Ed Negron’s Work-ins at <a href="http://www.thework-in.blogspot.com/" style="color: #7d181e; text-decoration: initial;" target="_blank"><span style="color: #0b5394;">thework-in.blogspot.com</span></a></span></div>
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Ed Negrònhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07799039141738649197noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5147263375462229249.post-48521675568126831252012-12-31T16:00:00.000-06:002012-12-31T16:00:07.408-06:00The BEST of Lifelube - "Whole Milk - Never Blend In" From Friday, November 14, 2008<br />
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<br />I went to see a pre-screening of <strong><a href="http://www.filminfocus.com/focusfeatures/film/milk/" style="color: #7d181e; text-decoration: initial;">Milk</a></strong>, the new feature film about Harvey Milk's life, with Sean Penn in the lead role. The movie was fantastic. I was in a theater full of Philadelphian queer activists and allies who represented all generations of our movement. There was the lesbian who helped found Giovanni's Room (our still running fabulous gay bookstore), many of our key political figures, AIDS activists who have been fighting for decades, fired-up youth, people of color, transmen and transwomen. That set the perfect scene for the movie itself-- a celebration of the power of gay communities at their best.</div>
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<br />I started crying within the first two minutes of the film. The opening scenes (I'm not giving anything away here) show 1950s era bar raids-- police pushing hapless gay men into paddy wagons; the look of fear and resignation among the gays; and a wonderful moment when one angry queen throws a drink at the camera (go Sister!). Director Gus Van Sant from the very opening paints a picture of the tremendous gains we have made in queer organizing since that time, while also ironically noting that we are fighting many of the same battles of the 1970s. Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it, and the movie is a remarkable reminder of what has often been forgotten by our gay movement.</div>
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<br />It seems almost odd that this film could come out at this time. The ongoing battle against Proposition 8 so mirrors one of the major dramas of the film: Milk's spearheading the efforts against the infamous Briggs Initiative (Proposition 6), which sought to ban gay teachers and their allies. Watching all of the protest, marches, and advocacy was a very spooky deja vu for me. Perhaps the most telling example of this deja vu is a marvelous moment when Supervisor Tom Ammiano, playing himself (as a teacher who confronts Briggs), shouts "you're trying to take away my job!" But it is spooky to see that Ammiano's hair is gray, and that he has not been made up to look 20something. He is the adult version of himself transported by time machine back to the Briggs Demonstration. The more things change, the more they stay the same. It's bittersweet, almost, to see that the organizing against the Briggs Initiative succeeds-- it makes a critical viewer wonder what we are doing wrong nowadays.</div>
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<br />Delightful moments include the wonderful portrayal of Cleve Jones (of AIDS Quilt fame) by Emile Hirsch. Hirsch brings out the sweet combination of Cleve's youthful bravado, ageism, and love for elders. When Milk first attempts to get Cleve to join in the gay liberation battle, Jones calls him "Old Man" and laughs in his face. But by the end, you can see the beautiful mentorship between Milk and Jones... and you can see the ways that Milk's lessons would live on in Jones' future organizing. It's all there.<br /><br />Penn as Harvey Milk is really incredible. Milk protégée Anne Kronenberg reported many a double-take during the filming-- they just look so much alike! And Penn also brings out the wonderful paradoxes in Milk's behavior-- the flirtatiousness, the naiveté, the seriousness, the genius, and the bullying. And Penn plays Milk as I always had imagined him-- a mensch on a mission. There is such a sense of self-awareness and destiny. It's also possible from viewing Penn's performance to see what it means to be a leader-- the commitment that is required, the cost to relationships and family, and the charisma and charm that is required to generate a Tribe.</div>
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<br />And to me the main story of the movie is the power of Tribe-building. Harvey does it with genius-- including all of the folks who, until the 1970s, had largely been outside political power networks. In the film, we see Milk's deft ability to build a coalition of progressive people-- gays, people of color, elders, union rank-and-file, youth, and others. Though he was a gay leader, he was far greater than that. As he says, he is there to lead "all the people".</div>
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<br />The portrayal of the dramatic events leading up to Milk and Moscone's assassination is compelling and direct. I had hoped for a complex portrayal of Dan White (the assassin) by Josh Brolin, and I think he did a not bad job. We get a little picture into his life: the pressures, the conservative background, the police influence. In the end, the senseless assassinations seem unavoidable.<br /><br />I've seem the documentary <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Times_of_Harvey_Milk" style="color: #7d181e; text-decoration: initial;"><strong>"Times of Harvey Milk"</strong></a> numerous times in my life, and there were moments when I felt transported back to that telling of the story. Both films are beautiful and different-- I recommend seeing the documentary before the movie to give you some background that isn't available in the feature. Notably, Van Sant omits the part of the story that occurs after Milk's assassination-- the trial and the dramatic White Night Riot. I was glad that my friend Micah had told me this ahead of time-- so I wasn't disappointed to miss the drama of police cars burning in the night. But I think Van Sant (and screenwriter Dustin Lance Black) were smart to omit the post-Milk trial and tribulation-- because really this story is focused on Harvey-- and when he is murdered, a new story begins.</div>
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<span style="font-style: italic;">Dear Alan,</span> <span style="font-style: italic;">I am 37 years old and I am starting to date a guy who is 38. We met online, then we met in person two times. I like the guy, (and he likes me too) he is smart and sweet, also good looking and sexy BUT, I just noticed that i</span><span style="font-style: italic;">n his</span><span style="font-style: italic;">profile online he states that he is up for threesomes and group sex. That "ain't" my cup of tea and that is making me doubt him. Will I be enough for him? Is this a recipe for disaster? Do people with that kind of behavior ever settle down and wa</span><span style="font-style: italic;">nt to have a family? Does this behavior suggest a cheater? Should I run or stay put? Should I ask him about it?</span> <span style="font-style: italic;">Any advice / guidance in the matter would be appreciated.</span> <span style="font-style: italic;">Thank you,</span> <span style="font-style: italic;">Stephen</span><br />
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I imagine you are disappointed in discovering your new romantic interest's sexual proclivities. The first thought that occurred to me is if you met him online, did you not see this part of his profile indicating what he likes sexually? I often find that it is very common for people who so intensely want to find a mate to exhibit what's called "selective attention" when they are seeking out potential partners. In other words, there is a tendency to ignore red flags and only focus on what the person looks like, and other attributes that are highly desirable. So the important lesson here is to pay attention to the whole package and be honest with yourself about what is important to you in selecting a mate and sustaining a relationship.<br />
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OK, so now that you are paying more attention to this part of who he is and what he likes to do sexually, you have lots of valid concerns. You are asking very important questions about what it all means about who he is and his capacity to be in the kind of relationship with you that you want for yourself. My best advice for you is to sit down with him and have a long talk about what you have learned from his profile. Ask him all of the questions on your mind, as well as about his past experience with these behaviors. Let him know what your concerns are and see how he responds. Do not judge him for having interests that are different than your own. Yet it is important that if you hear anything that is of concern for you to be honest with yourself about that and be willing to let him go. It will be hard at first but you will avoid much greater heartache down the road. You will also avoid condemning yourself for making the wrong decision about staying with him, having known of his sexual interests from the beginning.<br />
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I wish you the best in sorting this out and encourage you to let your inner guide lead you.<br />
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Alan Irgang, LCSW is a psychotherapist and “dating coach” in private practice in Chicago. He is also on the faculty of the Loyola University School of Social Work where he teaches graduate level courses in Human Sexuality. Alan has been in private practice since 1998 and has been facilitating groups for singles about dating and relationships for seven years.<a href="http://www.alanirgang.com/" style="color: #7d181e; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: initial;">Check out his website www.alanirgang.com</a> for more information about his practice and his upcoming seminars for singles.</div>
Ed Negrònhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07799039141738649197noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5147263375462229249.post-88579576837556601822012-12-31T12:00:00.000-06:002012-12-31T12:00:05.643-06:00The BEST of Lifelube - "Transmen - body, sex, identity and more" From Tuesday, September 28, 2010 <span style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #191919; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 18px;">What are Transmen's HIV Prevention Needs?</span><br style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #191919; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;" /><a href="http://youths2gethernetwork.blogspot.com/2010/09/what-are-transgender-mens-hiv.html" style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #7d181e; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 18px; text-decoration: initial;">via Youths 2gether Network</a><span style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #191919; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;"> (Nigeria)</span><br />
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<br />Excerpt:<br /><br />Accurate information about the diversity of transmen’s bodies is not widely available. Transmen have different types of bodies, depending on their use of testosterone and gender confirmation surgeries (which may include chest reconstruction, <span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1269246525_1">hysterectomy</span>, metoidioplasty, phalloplasty, 1 etc.; see<a href="http://www.ftmguide.org/" rel="nofollow" style="color: #7d181e; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: initial;" target="_blank">www.ftmguide. org</a> for further information) . Transmen use a broad range of terms and language to identify their sex/gender, describe their body parts, and disclose their trans status to others. For instance, some transmen are not comfortable with the terms ‘vagina’ and ‘vaginal sex’ and may prefer ‘front hole’ and ‘front sex’ or ‘front hole sex’, although this is not true for all transmen. This diversity creates unique needs and barriers for negotiating and adhering to safer sex practices that are not addressed by current HIV prevention programs.<br /><br /><a href="http://youths2gethernetwork.blogspot.com/2010/09/what-are-transgender-mens-hiv.html" style="color: #7d181e; text-decoration: initial;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Read more.</span></a><br /><br />Great resource - check it:<br /><a href="http://www.queertransmen.org/images/primed.pdf" style="color: #7d181e; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: initial;">Primed: The Back Pocket Guide for Transmen and the Men Who Dig Them</a></div>
Ed Negrònhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07799039141738649197noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5147263375462229249.post-88599678360311535452012-12-31T10:00:00.000-06:002012-12-31T10:00:10.327-06:00The BEST of Lifelube - "How is Sanford Gaylord healthy?" From Wednesday, October 6, 2010<br />
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One of the best things that I have done in keeping healthy is to realize that I am a work in progress; maintaining my health and staying healthy is an ongoing process.</blockquote>
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How am I healthy? That is a good question. I think realizing that I was not healthy for awhile and deciding to set goals and take the steps to be a healthier person is one of the best things I could have done for myself. As they say, “acceptance is the first step.”<br /><br />I have learned, that it is easy to fall into a rut and isolate, so that means turning off the computer, picking up the phone and talking instead of texting. I try to see friends and family in person and find things to do outside of the house as much as possible.<br /><br />I also try to find the joy in life and laugh as much as possible. Finding joy keeps me healthy mentally. The arts have always brought me joy. As an actor and I recently was able to perform again after a long hiatus and am lining up future engagements.<br /><br />Being a “grown up” is not easy; it is full of stress. I try to find some form of physical activity to deal with stress instead of my vices. I take walks and ride my bike to the park or the lakefront path. When I drive, I park a few blocks away from to my destination. I have learned to use portion control and moderation when it comes to food and vices.<br /><br />I believe that I am fortunate, even blessed to have gone from testing positive for HIV in my youth and reaching middle age. One of the best things that I have done in keeping healthy is to realize that I am a work in progress; maintaining my health and staying healthy is an ongoing process.<br /><br />The small steps you take can lead you to the big goal. After years of procrastination, I will be joining a gym this month to continue those small steps in maintaining my mental and physical health.<br /><br /><div class="post-body entry-content" style="line-height: 1.4; position: relative; width: 556px;">
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<span style="font-size: small;"><strong><em><span style="color: #ff7f00;"><span class="thoughtBoldBlue">Fun becomes fun, love becomes love,
life becomes worth living. And we become grateful. </span><span class="thoughtBoldBlue">—Beyond
Codependency</span></span></em></strong><br /><br /><span class="thoughtGray">Wait,
and expect good things - for yourself and your loved ones.</span><br /><br /><span class="thoughtGray">When you wonder what is coming, tell yourself the best is
coming, the very best life and love have to offer, the best Higher
Power and Their universe have to send. Then open your hands to receive it. Claim
it, and it is yours.</span><br /><br /><span class="thoughtGray">See the best in your
mind; envision what it will look like, what it will feel like. Focus, until you
can see it clearly. Let your whole being, body and soul, enter into and hold
onto the image for a moment.</span><br /><br /><span class="thoughtGray">Then, let it
go. Come back into today, the present moment. Do not obsess. Do not become
fearful. Become excited. Live today fully, expressing gratitude for all you have
been, all you are, and all you will become.</span><br /><br /><span class="thoughtGray">Wait, and expect good things.</span><br /></span><span class="thoughtGray"><em><span style="font-size: small;">Today, when I think abut the year ahead, I
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<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_cKNNaVdE0zs/SUBlT__ODGI/AAAAAAAAS0M/78xccqAYcKg/s1600-h/ed-web2.jpg" style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #7d181e; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-decoration: initial;"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5278330157546736738" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_cKNNaVdE0zs/SUBlT__ODGI/AAAAAAAAS0M/78xccqAYcKg/s320/ed-web2.jpg" style="-webkit-box-shadow: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.2) 0px 0px 20px; background-color: transparent; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; border-bottom-left-radius: 5px; border-bottom-right-radius: 5px; border-top-left-radius: 5px; border-top-right-radius: 5px; border: 1px solid rgb(78, 171, 255); box-shadow: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.2) 0px 0px 20px; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 320px; margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; padding: 8px; position: relative; width: 225px;" /></a><span style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #191919; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">In the GBLTQI community we focus a lot on our outer appearance. How’s my hair? How do I look in this outfit? Does my make-up look good? I’m I too thin, or too fat? We can spend hours at the gym working out without any hesitation. But when it comes to working on our inner being, our soul, we tend to avoid it like the black plague. Many of us don’t even know where to begin.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #191919; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">My hope is that this post will help you figure out how to begin your “Work-In” program. Yes, just like a workout program at the gym, it’s going to be challenging. It won’t be easy. It will hurt like hell at times and will really suck at other times. It will take dedication. You get out what you put in. Lastly, it’s going to take some time to see/feel some results. Patience is a virtue. As a result of all your hard work you will see life in a much different way. You will feel so much better about yourself and the world around you.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #191919; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Recreating, reinventing or revising who we are is what will keep us stronger than our sorrows; which can lead to unhealthy addictions. I always hear people say “I just want to go back to the way things were and the person I was before I started using drugs or alcohol.” Well I sure the hell don’t want to. What these people don’t realize is that the ways things were, and the person “I” was, is what got us using in the first place.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #191919; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">For most of us in recovery, we were given a second, third, fourth (and so on…) chance at life. Yet we try to do the same things over and over again expecting a different outcome. That, my friends, is the definition of insanity.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #191919; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Our first lesson is: Accept Change</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #191919; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">(Quick Disclaimer: The suggestions on this blog are just that “SUGGESTIONS.” My words cannot heal your pain and or addictions. Only you can. “Every time you don't follow your inner guidance, you feel a loss of energy, loss of power, a sense of spiritual deadness." -- Shakti Gawain)</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #191919; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">"We cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life's morning; for what in the morning was true will in evening become a lie." -- C.G. Jung</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #191919; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Life continually evolves. We’re always moving into new experiences, new possibilities. This constant change unsettles the personality, which finds security in stability. But with life always in flux, that security is an illusion. We experience pain by trying to hold on to things that are not solid.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #191919; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Life becomes joyful when we can open to the constant flow and ride freely with it. This requires us to let go of the need to control. We need to learn to trust.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #191919; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">"Can it then be that what we call the ‘self’ is fluid and elastic? It evolves, strikes a different balance with every new breath." -- Wayne Muller</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #191919; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">"We’re never the same; notice how you’re called to write something entirely different about a topic you responded to weeks or months ago." -- Patrice Vecchione</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #191919; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Personal growth can be a long hard journey. At Higher Awareness you are never left alone. From The Inner Journey (C) Reproductions Permitted: </span><span style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #7d181e; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 18px; text-decoration: initial;"><a href="http://www.higherawareness.com/" style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #7d181e; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-decoration: initial;">http://www.higherawareness.com</a></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: black; font-family: 'Times New Roman';">Read more Daily Motivations at</span><span style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: black; font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: x-small;"> </span><a href="http://thework-in.blogspot.com/" style="background-color: #fcfbf5; color: #7d181e; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">http://thework-in.blogspot.com</a>Ed Negrònhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07799039141738649197noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5147263375462229249.post-2066005122134306242012-12-30T18:00:00.000-06:002012-12-30T18:00:06.199-06:00The BEST of Lifelube - "Who's that Queer?" From Thursday, December 11, 2008<br />
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<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_dFP0g0IX80k/SUBDM9Ebo4I/AAAAAAAAAE8/GvkXeC0uqz8/s1600-h/PistolPete_Kirk.jpg" style="color: #7d181e; text-decoration: initial;"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5278292653108863874" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_dFP0g0IX80k/SUBDM9Ebo4I/AAAAAAAAAE8/GvkXeC0uqz8/s320/PistolPete_Kirk.jpg" style="-webkit-box-shadow: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.2) 0px 0px 20px; background-color: transparent; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; border-bottom-left-radius: 5px; border-bottom-right-radius: 5px; border-top-left-radius: 5px; border-top-right-radius: 5px; border: 1px solid rgb(78, 171, 255); box-shadow: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.2) 0px 0px 20px; cursor: pointer; float: left; height: 146px; margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; padding: 8px; position: relative; width: 128px;" /></a><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;"><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-size: 17px;">Brought to you by Pistol Pete</span></span><br /><br /><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gore_Vidal" style="color: #7d181e; text-decoration: initial;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Gore Vida</span>l</a> is an American novelist, screen writer, playwright, and politician. Early in his career he wrote the ground-breaking <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_City_and_the_Pillar" style="color: #7d181e; font-weight: bold; text-decoration: initial;"><i>The City and the Pillar</i></a> (1948) that outraged mainstream critics as one of the first major American novels to feature unambiguous homosexuality.<br /><br /><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_dFP0g0IX80k/SUAONh2pc5I/AAAAAAAAAE0/cKBJjyUkNUQ/s1600-h/Gore_Vidal.jpg" style="color: #7d181e; text-decoration: initial;"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5278234388866888594" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_dFP0g0IX80k/SUAONh2pc5I/AAAAAAAAAE0/cKBJjyUkNUQ/s320/Gore_Vidal.jpg" style="-webkit-box-shadow: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.2) 0px 0px 20px; background-color: transparent; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; border-bottom-left-radius: 5px; border-bottom-right-radius: 5px; border-top-left-radius: 5px; border-top-right-radius: 5px; border: 1px solid rgb(78, 171, 255); box-shadow: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.2) 0px 0px 20px; cursor: pointer; display: block; height: 256px; margin: 0px auto 10px; padding: 8px; position: relative; text-align: center; width: 320px;" /></a><br />In 1956, Vidal was hired as a contract screenwriter for MGM, and collaborated with Christopher Fry, reworking the screenplay. Vidal later claimed that in order to explain the animosity between Ben-Hur and Messala, he had inserted a gay subtext suggesting that the two had had a prior relationship, but that actor Charlton Heston was oblivious.<br /><br />As a political activist, in 1960, Gore Vidal was an unsuccessful Democratic candidate for Congress (running as Eugene Gore), losing an election in New York's 29th congressional district, a traditionally Republican district, by a margin of 57% to 43%. He received the most votes any Democrat in 50 years in that particular district.</div>
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