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The previous blog post about black gay and bisexual men seducing straight men prompted a lot discussion on Facebook and on Skype.
The minute straight men are mentioned on Black Gay Men’s Blog, some of us immediately lose sight of the totality of the article and focus on whether or not straight men, who engage in gay sex can still be straight. So, I thought we could explore that here.
Personally, I do not believe that engaging in gay sex once makes a man(or woman) gay. I don’t believe sexuality is that clear cut – it all depends on the circumstances surrounding the sexual encounter.
I am not suggesting homosexuality is a choice, but I think engaging in homosexual acts can be. Let me make one thing clear, I am not talking about repetitive, on-going sexual encounters or referring to those men, who might be in denial.
I think that any man who has gay sex for a prolonged period of time, or has numerous male sexual partners is at the very least bisexual.
Especially, if he does so when he has free access to women and the life of a loved one is not threatened. This is just my opinion and not the opinion of other contributors on Black Gay Men’s Blog.
I have never claimed to be politically correct 100% of the time. Quite frankly, I prefer being thought-provoking and getting us to have some sort of dialog, than being politically-correct.
I think some gay men are too quick to want to label anyone who has had homosexual sex as gay or no longer straight. Sexuality is simply not that black and white – not all sexual encounters define one’s sexuality.
The label “gay” is a western concept and there are societies, in which that label doesn’t exist and others where the gender of one’s sexual partners is not as big a deal as it might be here in the USA.
In those societies, “gay” is not a political statement and Black Gay Men’s Blog does have readers from all corners of the globe, so I try to look at things more broadly.
We don’t have to agree, but we can respect and maybe learn from one another.
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The previous blog post about black gay and bisexual men seducing straight men prompted a lot discussion on Facebook and on Skype.I decided to start a separate dialog, because there was a lot of focus on whether or not a man could be considered straight if he has had gay sex.
For me, the previous blog post had more to do with wanting someone, who was unattainable and lusting after straight men, who are often perceived as sexually superior, than whether or not straight men who might engage in gay sex are still heterosexual.
The minute straight men are mentioned on Black Gay Men’s Blog, some of us immediately lose sight of the totality of the article and focus on whether or not straight men, who engage in gay sex can still be straight. So, I thought we could explore that here.
Personally, I do not believe that engaging in gay sex once makes a man(or woman) gay. I don’t believe sexuality is that clear cut – it all depends on the circumstances surrounding the sexual encounter.
I am not suggesting homosexuality is a choice, but I think engaging in homosexual acts can be. Let me make one thing clear, I am not talking about repetitive, on-going sexual encounters or referring to those men, who might be in denial.
I think that any man who has gay sex for a prolonged period of time, or has numerous male sexual partners is at the very least bisexual.
Especially, if he does so when he has free access to women and the life of a loved one is not threatened. This is just my opinion and not the opinion of other contributors on Black Gay Men’s Blog.
I have never claimed to be politically correct 100% of the time. Quite frankly, I prefer being thought-provoking and getting us to have some sort of dialog, than being politically-correct.
I think some gay men are too quick to want to label anyone who has had homosexual sex as gay or no longer straight. Sexuality is simply not that black and white – not all sexual encounters define one’s sexuality.
The label “gay” is a western concept and there are societies, in which that label doesn’t exist and others where the gender of one’s sexual partners is not as big a deal as it might be here in the USA.
In those societies, “gay” is not a political statement and Black Gay Men’s Blog does have readers from all corners of the globe, so I try to look at things more broadly.
We don’t have to agree, but we can respect and maybe learn from one another.
Read the rest
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