Wednesday, July 13, 2011

How is Robert Elmore healthy? [Part 2]

Many people suffer mentally and aren't even aware of the damages they are causing.

Everyone needs a strong circle of people that they can vent to. I don't believe that any one person should know everything about you which is why I say keep a close circle and you decide who you will disclose what to. It is never good to keep your feelings and emotions bottled up, even if you need a day or two to collect yourself you should never let things fester.

 Being unstable mentally can affect you physically as well. And sometimes it is good to speak with a professional; it doesn't make you crazy or mean that you have a problem. Speaking to a professional counselor, a doctor, can help you prevent a problem. Counselors can sometimes help you in ways that friends, lovers, or relatives cannot.

Another healthy way to release is to cry. As I get older I find myself crying more and at the most random of times. But I always feel so refreshed afterwards. Chanting, praying, boxing (with actual gloves in a ring), running, writing, meditating, and masturbating are all potentially safe ways to maintain good mental health.

Emotions are a little more difficult to control because many people allow for their emotions to guide them and when things go wrong so does the emotional guidance. I try to talk to older wise individuals and find out what kept them together as they went through life.

When I am angry, I find ways to calm myself down that don't involve me hurting anyone else. When you are sad you should figure what's making you sad and fix it. Never dwell in atmosphere that negatively affects your emotions, know that you are worth more and deserve happiness.

Don't allow yourself to "fall in love" with someone before they show you their true colors

Become best friends with yourself and understand what things make you happy and what things make you unhappy. Knowing yourself and finding personal ways to control your emotions is the best way to maintain good emotional health.

Morality is a bit more difficult because it's partially based on personal beliefs, especially if you have no spiritual or religious grounding. No offense but people who aren't guided by anything other than themselves often times so are their moral beliefs. Thankfully, there are some common understandings of right and wrong. As long as you respect these common "laws" and stand strong on your beliefs you will maintain good moral health. If you don't stand for something you'll fall for anything.

Find out what patterns work best for you and your health and begin practice healthy living and eventually it won't seem like a task it will be second nature. You will feel so much better and the quality of your life will improve drastically. 

-- Robert Elmore
Chicago, IL

How are you healthy?
Please join the hundreds who have shared their tips.

Tell us HERE. Send a pic to the same place.
And we'll blog it, right here on LifeLube.
Gay men and all allies welcome to participate.

Read past posts.
Learn more about the campaign


  1. LOVE part 2 ---- yer a smart guy Robert - thanks for sharing


Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...

select key words

2007 National HIV Prevention Conference 2009 National LGBTI Health Summit 2011 LGBTI Health Summit 2012 Gay Men's Health Summit 2012 International AIDS Conference abstinence only ACT Up activism advocacy Africa african-american aging issues AIDS AIDS Foundation of Chicago anal cancer anal carcinoma anal health anal sex andrew's anus athlete ball scene bareback porn barebacking bathhouses bears big bold and beautiful Bisexual Bisexual Health Summit bisexuality black gay men black msm blood ban blood donor body image bottom Brian Mustanski BUTT Center on Halsted Charles Stephens Chicago Chicago Black Gay Men's Caucus Chicago Task Force on LGBT Substance Use and Abuse Chris Bartlett chubby chaser circumcision civil rights civil union Coaching with Jake communication community organizing condoms Congress crystal meth dating dating and mating with alan irgang David Halperin David Munar depression disclosure discrimination domestic violence don't ask don't tell douche downlow Dr. James Holsinger Dr. Jesus Ramirez-Valles Dr. Rafael Diaz Dr. Ron Stall drag queen Ed Negron emotional health ENDA Eric Rofes exercise Feast of Fun Feel the love... female condom fitness Friday is for Faeries FTM gay culture gay identity gay latino gay male sex gay marriage gay men gay men of color gay men's health Gay Men's Health Summit 2010 gay pride gay rights gay rugby gay sex gay youth gender harm reduction hate crime HCV health care health care reform health insurance hepatitis C HIV HIV care HIV drugs HIV negative HIV positive HIV prevention HIV stigma HIV strategic plan HIV testing hiv vaccine HIV/AIDS homophobia homosexuality hottie hotties how are you healthy? Howard Brown Health Center HPV human rights humor hunk Illinois IML immigration International AIDS Conference international mr. leather internet intimacy IRMA Jim Pickett leather community leathersex Leon Liberman LGBT LGBT adoption LGBT culture LGBT health LGBT rights LGBT seniors LGBT youth LGBTI community LGBTI culture LGBTI health LGBTI rights LGBTI spirituality LGV LifeLube LifeLube forum LifeLube poll LifeLube subscription lifelube survey Lorenzo Herrera y Lozano love lube lubricant Lymphogranuloma Venereum masturbation mental health microbicides middle Monday Morning Perk-Up MRSA MSM music National AIDS Strategy National Gay Men's Health Summit negotiated safety nutrition One Fey's Tale oral sex Peter Pointers physical health Pistol Pete pleasure PnP podcast policy politics poppers porn post-exposure prophylaxis PrEP President Barack Obama Presidential Campaign prevention Project CRYSP prostate prostate cancer public health public sex venues queer identity racism Radical Faerie recovery rectal microbicides relationships religion research safe sex semen Senator Barack Obama sero-adaptation sero-sorting seroguessing sex sexual abuse sexual addiction sexual health sexual orientation Sister Glo Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence smoking social marketing spirituality STD stigma stonewall riots substance abuse treatment substance use suicide super-bug superinfection Susan Kingston Swiss declaration syphilis Ted Kerr Test Positive Aware Network testicle self-examination testicular cancer testing The "Work-In" The 2009 Gay Men's Health Agenda Tony Valenzuela top Trans and Intersex Association trans group blog Trans Gynecology Access Program transgender transgender day of remembrance transgendered transmen transphobia transsexual Trevor Hoppe universal health care unsafe sex vaccines video violence viral load Who's That Queer Woof Wednesday writers yoga You Tube youtube