Monday, August 10, 2009

Loving Him His Fag Hags

by Topher

History shows that behind (or next to)
many a homo is a great fag hag

Such the debate as of late between many of my LGBTQ friends….Heterosexual Bachelorette parties a NOOOOOO in gay bars!? I and my friends have been mulling this topic over for weeks. Have we gone so far to forget who helps pave the ways for gays, sissies, homos…? My answer: FAG HAGS! From prom dates to being our beards when needed yet when our fellow fag hags find true love….they aren’t allowed to share and revel in it with the ones they love…us and our community…just because some lawmakers say we shouldn’t be able to wed? PSHAW! (pshaw - how 1991 , eh?)

Recently, I was approached by my sister-in-law (to be) about her coming bachelorette party on October 3rd. Now, my sister-to-be is my fag hag, my confidant, my bestest girlfriend, the closest thing I have to a real sister, everything I could wish for in a friend and more. We share everything from holidays, to each others birthdays, our friends misgivings….she has become the glue between much of my family and I. The idea had been posed to bring her bachelorette party to the gayborhood. Why not? ALL THE GIRLS love us boys, we all know how to throw down with out trying to get into their skivvies while having a good time (important to woman have a few to drink AND BEING SAFE). WITHOUT hesitation I jumped for it and let her Maid-of-honor and her know that I GOT IT, and let’s bring her bachelorette party to homoville!

Ironically, it was she who asked me if having a bachelorette party in gaytown would be emotional issue with proposition 8 topic, and if it bothers me that while I am not afforded the right to marry? And until I read a few articles written about bachelorette parties just being nuisance I had no idea that others in my community would feel so ill about bachelorette parties in fag bars. So, I bring us back to my first question, have we come so far to forget who helped us in our hours of needs. History shows that behind (or next to) many a homo is a great fag hag.

For me, a world of drugs, and a fall from grace was eminent in my early year with all the negative choices I had made. With the help of my brother and his soon-to-be wife I found the much needed help …and when she wants to revel in her found happiness amongst her real friends (us fags) I’m suppose to say NO gay bars for you (oh but by the way next week when you want a drink we’ll take your money)? Does that not make us just as much a bigot as our right-wing heterosexual counterparts rallying against us in our search for marital bliss? Ack! Have we come so far that we (the LGBT community) are a community of exclusivity instead of inclusivity?

Personally, I say F#CK MARRIAGE! A religious institution I want no party to because religion is not a central issue in my life. However, civil unions, that’s a different story. Politically get rid of marriage (since it is religious in origin and that SUPPOSED separation of church and sate we all so talk about) and place civil unions for heterosexuals, and homosexuals, and lesbian…all human kind…wanting to healthily enter into this legal binding. IF religion is a central focus in your life, be my guest and celebrate before god, I choose to want to celebrate it amongst my family and friends and leave God out of it (but I digress).

When that day arrives, you bet my sister-in-law will be there at the alter beside me, the week before helping my best man throw that bachelor party (which will look much like her bachelorette party) and together we will revel and celebrate in our happiness together. BUT UNTIL then, I refuse to think that my fellow faggots would be so rude to turn a blind eye to the fag hags that helped pave our ways when we were younger, that still pave the way for many of things today and still stand next to us in our fight for everything that we hold dear...because they are female and their celebration of there marriage is somehow being flaunted in our face? THINK again and get over it!

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