Monday, August 4, 2008

Massage with unhappy endings

By Alex Au on Fridae.com

Think again before you accept a "special" to round off a massage session – even if you've got "protection." Alex Au, who loves going for massages, explains why.

"You want? I have condom," he whispered.


"No, definitely not," I said, for the umpteenth time slightly horrified. "Your hands are full of oil. My body's full of oil. Oil no good for rubber condom."

Yet, for the umpteenth time, I doubted if my message got through.

I'm a massage mole; I love going for massages. And there is no better place for the sheer variety of offerings than Bangkok.

Some days, I choose the highly skilled professional massage places complete with burning aroma, rose petals, ginger tea and staff bowing so frequently you fear they'd soon be hunchbacked. Other days, I want the friskier places.

(Yet other days, I choose the downmarket dumps, for the sheer pleasure wallowing in dirt, but I'm not about to tell you about those.)

The frisky places are where the dangers lurk. The price of the massage tells you that the establishment cannot quite afford to pay the masseurs decent salaries and they have to depend on tips. Naturally, the way to maximise tips is for the masseurs to offer "special services" to round off a session.

It's an open secret that sex is available, in fact, almost obligatory, to the extent that on the petite tray that these masseurs take with them into the room, one finds not just the essential oil and the decorative orchid, but often two packets of condoms as well, artfully tucked under the said orchid.

But massage, to mean anything, has to involve oil, and especially since these boys aren't professionally trained, they tend to slather on the oil like one might baste a pig for roasting. And then after all that oiling, to still expect condoms to provide a reliable barrier... well, wake up. (Oil and oil-based lubricants such as hand creams, baby oil and Vaseline can damage latex and cause latex condoms to tear more easily. So use only water-based lube such as KY Jelly, Astroglide, Wet.)

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