Cyber Rudeness

We thought this item from Shotworthy was, um, worthy of our sharing it with you. Good manners, after all, are really a must, don't you think?

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Commentary about the world of sex, online.
By CyberRogue

CYBER RUDENESS

I was in one of the Gay.com San Francisco chat rooms the other day when an altercation erupted in the room over a racist comment one guy had made. He didn't think was racist, but many of the other men in the room did. It was hard to tell if the guy who'd made the comment was actually as immature, ignorant, and bigoted as he seemed, or if he was just trying to childishly provoke discussion (it was probably a little of both), The one thing he certainly did succeed in doing was focusing much of the attention in the room on himself, and starting a prolonged free-for-all about racism and the lack of manners that many men display online.

What is it about the Internet, or being online, that makes it so easy for guys to be rude when posting? It's not even clear if guys purposely intend to be so offensive in their posts, or if they just fail to apply the same rules of etiquette for interacting with others that they hopefully use offline, but the end result is the same regardless of whether or not the actual intent is to truly be offensive.

Case in point - how guys express their sexual desires, interests, attractions, and/or wants and needs online. There's a positive and a negative way to communicate what kinds of partners you're interested in meeting or fucking. So why do so many guys choose to do it in a negative way. For instance, if you're not into men of color, or only men of certain races/ethnicities, why not say it in a way that doesn't offend the men that you're not interested in. Particularly since some guys will ignore you even if they're not a part of the racial/ethnic group that you offensively rejected because they find the manner in which you indicated your sexual interests offensive (not to mention a red flag of insensitivity).

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