So this little chart, from a presentation on sero-adaptation you can find here, shows the relative risks of various unprotected sexual acts. I am including a version, below, done by the wonderful Trevor Hoppe who added translations in "gay speak."
What does this chart mean? Well, giving or receiving head is rather low risk, and getting fucked without a condom? Rather high risk. Topping someone without a condom? Significantly lower risk than not using a condom while bottoming. This puts it all together so you can look at relative risk comparing various activities.
Ranking risk of one sexual practice is another harm reduction myth. We don't know before and during sex what might happen next in a moment when the heart is beating faster and the mind is numbed. Generally during sex people don't do one thing and stop. So risk assessment of one sexual practice can be deceptive especially selfdeceptive. The next moment after one sexual practice can be something different and unexpected. The unexpected, spontaneity is part of the nature of sexuality that isn't taken into account in ranking risk of one sexual practice.
ReplyDeleteI think the myth here is that men can't make rational decisions about sex and sexual behaviors - before or during sex. Many, many gay men since the beginning of the AIDS epidemic have chosen one activity over another, or chosen to avoid one altogether, as a means of harm reduction. The view you espouse likens adults to infants - and sorry, I don't buy it.
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You mean like life is rational?... I mean math and science are rational but they aren't a big part of the life of most people because it's hard to do math and science during sex.
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Well, we can say two things about that. Well, generally, infants don't do math and science. While infants can be irrational, they generally don't do sex either. When we're talking about sexuality there's another train track of irrationality that runs parallel to it.
When you think about it during sex you're distracted from it. For most animals sex goes pretty fast unless you're a top predator. You have to think about these things in the long run of history. And sex today is probably safer than when you would be eaten after sex. Living things have to thrown into a state of irrationality where they ignore reality to have sex for the species to reproduce but it's also dangerous and you're presenting twice the target to another individual. Another animal going around looking for something to eat is going to have a real treat. If you look at it from the biological point of view sex is very dangerous because you're subject to being attacked.
I also would add into the conversation the fact that transmen have entered into gay men's communities and thus have changed our ability to distinguish between what the bodies of self-identified gay men look like - and what kind of sex (anal v. vaginal) gay men are having!
ReplyDeleteThanks for bringing this issue up, Chris!
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Trevor
I really appreciate all the dialogue around this. I agree --- with all the caveats, this chart is still an important tool we can use to talk about risk and what our levels of comfort are with various activities. It's about the discussion, really, more so than hard and fast numbers.
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Jim