Friday, January 13, 2011
Today's Gift
The adventure of connection is to speak out. .
.
The feeling of connection we yearn for with our partner
comes when we speak what is on our mind; we have to stop guessing what each
other feels and stop guarding against all offenses. A relationship with vitality
is not so guarded that we constantly have to avoid rubbing each other the wrong
way. We expect offenses and misunderstandings occasionally.
The greatest offense we can commit in an intimate
relationship is dishonesty. Perhaps when we speak to our partner we will not
express what we really mean on our first try. Or we will not realize how our
partner feels about what we say until he or she tells us. In vibrant and living
relationships people agree that they will keep talking when someone feels hurt,
misunderstands, or disagrees. The adventure of connection is to speak our
thoughts and feelings in their complete form, and then continue to talk until
they become clear and understood.
Tell your mate something you have been guarding in your
mind.
From the book: The More We Find In Each Other by Merle
Fossum and Mavis Fossum
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