Wednesday,
November 16, 2011
Today's
Gift
Self-pity is easily the
most destructive of the nonpharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives
momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality. -- John W.
Gardner
The Victim Trap
The belief that life has to be hard and difficult
in the belief that makes a martyr.
We can change our negative beliefs about life, and
whether we have the power to stop our pain and take care of
ourselves.
We aren't helpless. We can solve our problems. We
do have power - not to change or control others, but to solve the problems that
are ours to solve.
Using each problem that comes our way to "prove"
that life is hard and we are helpless - this is codependency. It's the victim
trap.
Life does not have to be difficult. In fact, it can
be smooth. Life is good. We don't have to "awfulize" it, or ourselves. We don't
have to live on the underside.
We do have power, more power than we know, even in
the difficult times. And the difficult times don't prove life is bad; they are
part of the ups and downs of life; often, they work out for the
best.
We can change our attitude; we can change
ourselves; sometimes, we can change our circumstances.
Life is challenging. Sometimes, there's more pain
than we asked for; sometimes, there's more joy than we imagined.
It's all part of the package, and the package is
good.
We are not victims of life. We can learn to remove
ourselves as victims of life. By letting go of our belief that life has to be
hard and difficult, we make our life much easier.
Today, Higher Power, help me let go of my
belief that life is so hard, so awful, or so difficult. Help me replace that
belief with a healthier, more realistic view.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
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