Gawker, By Brian Moylan
I have everything I need. Now it's time to get hitched!
For those who don't want to go through all the fuss, there's going to be a free pop-up chapel in Central Park on July 30th that will be giving out the quickie weddings that heterosexual couples who visit Vegas have been rubbing in our faces for decades. But for the rest of you who want to figure out how to have your own elaborate affair, it's going to take more than just planning, but problem solving as well.
If you're a heterosexual man or woman, what you're supposed to do and when has been determined by centuries of social norms. While many gay people will want to maintain many of the traditions they're used to seeing at straight weddings, it's often hard to translate things that are designed for opposite-sex couples to two people of the same sex. Here are some suggestions on what to keep and what to ditch.
The man is supposed to get down on one knee and offer the woman a ring, right? At least that's the way it happens on The Bachelor. What to do if you're on an episode of The Confirmed Bachelor? I think it's fine for either partner to ask.
You can't say that the butch or the top should do the proposing, because we know it's the femme or the bottom who wears the pants in the relationship—most of the time anyway. So whoever gets to it first gets to do the proposing. Expect to see "Sheila, Will You Marry Me? Love Debbie" on the Jumbotron at every Giants home game next season.
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