Monday, June 27, 2011
Amazes me what good sex can leads to
Three Fridays ago, I had a sexual encounter with this guy from Black Gay Chat (BGC). He was attractive, nice body, and blessed in package area.We’ve been chatting for some time and hooked up when the opportunity presented itself.
I assumed he was HIV positive because he left his status section blank on his profile. That is normally a signal online when a person HIV positive doesn’t want to disclose his/her status. I knew to use protection anyway given that I never planned to see him again.
I took a trip over to his house and it was showtime. The sex was hot but quickly turned cold when I discovered the condom broke. The room had an awkward silence. There wasn’t much to say then after but to recap about what just happened.
I was honest and told him that I was HIV positive (even though it was listed on my bgc profile) in hopes that he was HIV positive as well. Instead he replied stating “Im clean.” What does that mean? It also shocked me he didn’t seem nervous and showed much concern for the condom breaking. Luckily he didn’t finish off inside me so it was limited risk.
Wednesday of the following week, I started having some trouble. I was having pains and bleeding from my anus. The pains and bleeding increased over the weekend causing several other problems in the lower half of my body.
I went to the ER and discovered I had an infection. I asked for the doctor to take an STD test in addition to my blood work. I felt embarrassed but I knew that more than likely that was the cause of my pain. I received treatment for Gonorrhea while I waited for my result that would come in 2 to 3 days.
In the meantime, I contacted the guy to let him know that he should get tested. I haven’t had sex with anyone else in the last 30 days and been tested previously for STDS within that time. He denied having anything (like I was accusing him) and said he was tested a week before we had sex. At that point, I left the situation alone.
Three days pasted and I went back for my results. I felt so much better and expected to here that I had gonorrhea. Surprisingly, The ER treated me but never put the test in. Stupid!
Even though I felt better and had no symptoms, I requested to be tested again. I felt obligated to know what was wrong with my body/
I am currently waiting but I rather know then not know.
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