Thursday, April 14, 2011

Life Skills and Spirituality from A - Z

by Jake Arturio Braden
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[Coaching with Jake appears most Thursdays on LifeLube]

For the next few sessions I will look at the A –Z of life skills, life management and improving your outlook and hence your chances of success.

Part One

A is for allow or allowing
, Sometimes just being in a state of allowance is resourceful, I am not saying that you are accepting something or putting up with something you do not want, it's about being in the energy space of allowing to have that feeling... before you do something to change it. Being in a state of allowance means that you are judging yourself less, judging a situation differently which can lessen its “impact” on you.

B is for Breathing
, which may sound simple. Well it is, our emotional state can be changed through breathing more effectively and many of us do not breathe as effectively as we can. So to do this you breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth and try to breath from your stomach or your diaphragm. It’s good to do as much as you can... or all the time if you can. Breathing helps shift the energy of your body as well

C is for consciously create, as in consciously create your life and your experiences. How often to do let your mind run away with negative thoughts with, Judgements, Conclusions, Computations and Decisions about others about your life, about your day and most importantly about yourself? You are the creator of your experience, so why not create a better experience. Remember what I said about mental rehearsal? Same principle. So small steps at first. Spend a few minutes when you wake up each morning creating your day, how you want it to be/go, what intentions you have for it etc..... Run it for about five mins.... Yes it takes practice and gets easier the more you do it.

D is for Dream, Dream, big, Dream limitlessly

E is for Ego. Is it your friend or not? Your ego is behind your little voice, your inner voice and your self talk. Is it the one that tells you that are worthless, you can’t do things... is it the one that demands so much from you and others? Is it the one that needs more and more and more? Like the need to have loads of sex to feel attractive and conversely make the self judgement that not having sex means you are worthless? Does it tell you that you need to have things from outside yourself to “make” you feel good about yourself? Remember I talked about your inner best friend this can be your ego - it can be tamed to support and love you rather than judge you. Your ego can be one that needs to add 100s of sexy men on Facebook to feel worthwhile or the one that supports you and tells you that no matter what you are loved and adore.

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