Thursday, March 24, 2011

Coaching with Jake - Who's Your Best Friend?

Do you want to sped time with someone who judges, berates, belittles and tells you that you're bad?

by Jake Arturio Braden
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[Coaching with Jake appears every Thursday on LifeLube]

So who is your best friend? I'd say it's the person who reminds you how great you are, reminds you of all the things you're good at.

How many of you answered "me" ... yourself?

There are times where all of us would like some reassurance, some positive strokes, to be given a compliment or a boost. I recently was feeling out of sorts and needed a verbal hug, some reassurance that I was ok and appreciated... as sometimes happens when the universal energy is “challenging” us. The supportive voices from “others” (friends, family etc) were silent. So I asked - what part of myself can facilitate that need?

Positive feedback is nice and I am not intimating that people should refrain from showing appreciation and complimenting and supporting each other. I am saying that perhaps we can try to be our own best friend first. After all who do we spend all our time?

Wouldn’t it be nice if that time was spent with someone we liked?

Do you want to sped time with someone who judges, berates, belittles and tells you that you're bad? This type of negative self talk can be tamed and turned around to be one of support and caring. So when you require or feel the need for some kind of confidence boost, your “inner” best friend can give it.

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1 comment:

  1. YEAH For ME! (shouted in my best Sesame Street voice & costume)


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