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“The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your own arm.”
- Swedish proverb
In our past, we hurt others. We hurt ourselves. We fucked up a lot. So a lot of us go through life not trusting ourselves very much. The truth is; we couldn't be trusted.
But because we are doing our Work-In, we can be trusted again. We can again live and love ourselves. We do this by forgiving ourselves. The power of forgiveness is tremendous in relieving you of all the bottled up anger and negative energy that is keeping you stuck in your present reality. To create a new reality for you, the first and foremost thing is to forgive yourself and everybody else for past mistakes and issues.
One exercise I learned that really helps me forgive myself is to go to a quiet place, recall an incident of the past that I want to forgive, and then try to feel the hurt as much as I can. If I need to cry, I do it. You can do it too. Crying is the best medicine for emotional hurt and pain, though society tells us different, especially for men. Give in. Welcome whatever feeling or feelings that come up. Recall your inner child who was involved in that particular experience and talk to him/her. Say that you forgive him, as he was only acting on the awareness that he had at that time. Reassure him, and love him/her for taking care of you at that time. You may have to do this more than once for deeper hurts; but it is worth it because your present self is dependent on healing your past issues. By practicing this exercise we'll live better lives. We'll come to trust ourselves again.
Accept me as I am, I have no guarantee.
A claim to perfection I have not. Perfect I cannot be.
I, like you.....am human. Prone to make mistakes.
Failure is not a character flaw, Just a part of the human makeup.
I live, I laugh and I also learn. My knowledge is incomplete.
I am searching all the time, in waking hours as well as sleep.
I have a long road to travel, as well as you do.
We learn our lessons on the way. Wisdom we shall accrue.
So please accept me as I am Because I am .... Just me.
No one like me in the world. That is my only guarantee.
This is how I feel, I have a heart, open it and see
Please take care. That's all I am, just me.
- Author Unknown
P.S. As a sign of forgiveness buy yourself a box of chocolates for Valentines Day this weekend. You owe it to yourself.
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(Usual disclaimer applies: The suggestions on this blog are just that “SUGGESTIONS.” My words cannot heal your pain and or addictions. Nor can I change your life. Only you can.)
“Every time you don't follow your inner guidance, you feel a loss of energy, loss of power, a sense of spiritual deadness." -- Shakti Gawain
"Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek."
President Barack Obama - 44th President of the United States of America 2009