Where does this dude get off?

Hi everyone.

My name is Hudson and I live on the north side of Chicago.

I am a 31-year-old HIV poz gay man. When I tell people my story, they say, “where does this dude get off telling me this, that shit won’t happen to me?” I’ve been negative, attempted to stay that way, but ended up becoming poz. There were steps I should have taken, I didn’t, but now I am taking steps to keep me healthy.

It has always been hard for me to use condoms, but once I found out that I was poz, it became necessary for me to use condoms for me and my partners. Not only to keep those men I slept with safe, but also to keep me safe! I didn’t want to catch anything else!

It’s been a struggle, but I am proud to say that every time I have had sex in the past two months I used a condom. It most definitely wasn’t easy. There were some fine men out there that didn’t care that I was poz, but I couldn’t risk harming them or me.


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