[we found this great piece - "Cleanng Your Butt" at Minnesota's fabulous PrideAlive.org site. More helpful, hole-istic info from them here.]
A guide to taking care of your butt before and after sex.by Joe Dobbert
Reprinted from Shameless volume 1 issue 3.
Hygiene is a big issue when you’re having anal sex – and it should be. Your anus is home to lots of bacteria and other things that are good in your butt but not so good on your partner.
There aren’t many things more unappealing to some tops than pulling out and having a penis coated in his partner’s feces. Even with the condom on, it can be a huge mess. The more graphic term for this is “shit-dick.”
Hygiene is a big issue when you’re having anal sex – and it should be. Your anus is home to lots of bacteria and other things that are good in your butt but not so good on your partner.
There aren’t many things more unappealing to some tops than pulling out and having a penis coated in his partner’s feces. Even with the condom on, it can be a huge mess. The more graphic term for this is “shit-dick.”
That said, it’s very important that you do not use enemas (douche) before anal sex. In fact, if you’re not constipated, or your doctor hasn’t instructed you to do so, you should avoid enemas in general.
Using liquids to purge the bowel is a very risky activity because:
Anything other than water can cause irritation to the lining of your rectum. This makes you more likely to get HIV or another STI.
Water that’s too hot can burn the lining of your rectum. This makes you more likely to get HIV or another STI.
Flooding your rectum with water, ironically enough, dehydrates the colon. This makes your colon more apt to suck up other fluids. If a condom were to break during anal sex, your thirsty colon would suck up the cum and, if your partner were HIV positive, it would make you more likely to get HIV.
Purging with water can make your body begin to rely on enemas to have a bowel movement. After enough enemas, you won’t be able to poop without them.
If you douche too late, you might not get the water out in time. The pressure of your partner’s penis up there will push this residual water (and all the feces left in your bowel) out onto the bed, making a bigger mess than you set out to avoid.
Fortunately for all of us, there are some steps that you can take to clean yourself up before sex:
Wipe the area down with a moist cloth to clean the outside.
Don’t eat for a few hours before sex. Eating stimulates the bowel and will cause your body to create more shit.
Fill an ear syringe (the blue bulb with the tapered nozzle) with warm (not hot) water and gently squeeze it into your rectum. This small amount of water will not cause any damage and should remove any residue left inside your ass.
Relax. Sex is messy. If you make a mess, wash it up with soapy water. Isn’t showering after sex part of the fun anyway?
Remember, shit happens!
And that, my friends, is the fabulous world of cleaning your butt. If you choose to have anal sex, there are a number of ways to make it safer and pleasurable. The bottom line is, listen to your body. If it doesn’t feel good, stop. Above all else, take care of your ass and your ass will take care of you.
A thought experiment
ReplyDeletehttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thought_experiment
Two uninfected men are having anal sex. Is it true or false one or both can get human immunodeficiency virus?...
True? ....
False? ....
There seems to be a disconnect with what this article is saying and what's actually happening in the real world. I think gay men have been using enemas to clean up before anal sex for years. And most men use common sense and know that you don't need more water than is necessary. But certainly more than an ear syringe. I have to wonder how many of those Colt anal douches are sold on the Internet. These certainly aren't ear syringe size! Also, are gay docs seeing men show up at their offices with problems due to using enemas? Are gay men saying that they've had problems using enemas? If so, I sure haven't heard of this. Seems that articles like this tend to do a disservice to our community by not realizing that gay men do use enemas for cleaning up and that being clean before anal sex is a big concern for men. Sorry, but saying that "shit happens" just doesn't cut it and fails to recognize how important this issue is for gay men.
ReplyDeleteWhile a lot of gay men do, in fact, use enemas - that doesn't mean they are using them in healthy ways. A lot of docs would suggest not using them at all. And if you do use them, to use little water, make sure it is warm, maybe even a little sea salt. Unfortunately, we know of men who put nozzles up their butt, use store bought enemas too frequently, even put bleach and soap up there. NOT GOOD! The point of the article is that taking care of yourself, and your booty, gently and thoughtfully and as naturally as possible is a good thing.
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