Showing posts with label black men. Show all posts
Showing posts with label black men. Show all posts

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

NBGMAC to Host a National Webinar for Young Black Gay, Bisexual and Same Gender Loving Men

The National Black Gay Men’s Advocacy Coalition (NBGMAC), co-sponsored by FHI 360, invites young Black Gay, Bisexual, and Same Gender Loving men from across the country to participate in a national webinar on October 14th, 2011 at 3:00PM (EDT) to develop solutions for addressing the HIV/AIDS epidemic within the young Black Gay, Bisexual, and Same Gender Loving community.

Click here to register!

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

How is Rich Mugler healthy?

I consider myself a socialite in the community I live in, so there are a few things that I do that involved my health that are important FOR ME.

There are important things that I do make sure I look up to par when wining, dinning, networking and mingling in such a big city like Philadelphia.

I stay healthy by taking good care of my facial skin, teeth, and body.

First, I believe that taking good care of your facial skin is essential part of staying healthy. It is a very simple thing to do and everyone can benefit, even those who have facial skin issues. A disciplined skin care routine keeps you looking and feeling your best.

Everyone should use a professional facial cleaner and a moisturizer. I also use a toner in-between facial cleaner and moisturizer. The toner is uses to help shrink the appearance of pores and it brings your skin back to an optimal pH level. A scrub is great to use once or twice a week and will keep your facial skin looking smoothed and polished.

Along with taking good care of my facial skin, I believe that taking good care of your teeth is just as important for your health. Your teeth are the first thing that most people notice when engaging in conversations and being social so making sure they are clean and sparkling is critical. That’s why I brush my teeth twice a day, floss, visit the dentist regularly, and I also use a teeth whitening system when needed. This keeps my teeth looking great and paparazzi ready (lol).

Lastly, my body is my temple, so I treat it as so.

I stay healthy by hitting up the gym 3 to 4 times a week. I do about hour of cardio twice a week and lift weights the other 2 days. Exercising allows me to fit into the clothes I want to wear. I dress to impress when heading out to an exclusive lounge bar or restaurant. Being red carpet ready is a must (lol)! Although this is my least favorite routine of all, it is probably my most important because exercising keeps my mind, body and spirit feeling great!

These are just a few things that I do to keep myself healthy. It’s what makes me unique. For those who consider themselves socialite like me, you should try it and see what kind of response you get. It really works FOR ME and maybe it will for you.

 
--Rich Mugler
Philadelphia

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Friday, July 8, 2011

New book by Darian Aaron focuses on black gay men in committed relationships

via The Ga Voice, By Dyana Bagby

"I wanted people to have some role models to look up to," he adds. 


"And one thing I learned is that we are in long-term relationships. They are making it work."

Aaron said he knew long-term relationships for black gay couples was attainable — he has friends who represent this very well.
"But for some reason they are not in magazines. We are kind of sight unseen," he said. "They weren't in magazines. People don't believe we exist."
Most representation in the media, Aaron adds, are affluent white gay men. Aaron is hoping his book shows that yes, indeed, there are many black gay couples living in long, fulfilling relationships.
I'm hoping to see a true reflection of the LGBT community and a lot of times I don't think that is shown," he said.
"We are another slice of life that gets overlooked. And this is why I wrote this book."

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Fidelity Amongst Black Gay Men

via Black Gay Men's Blog

A recent personal experience leads Black Gay Men’s Blog Contributor and Author, Rafael Solece, to explore fidelity amongst black gay men. Are black gay men capable of being faithful or are men innately sexual creatures who don’t know how to control our desires? Is there a timeline on fidelity in a relationship? Can two men be happy sharing each other with the outside world? All these questions and hardly any answers. Share your thoughts…

My momma use to always say; don’t go looking for anything that you aren’t ready to find! I wish I had listened to that bit of advice. I found a rouge condom in the trashcan at The Barber’s house. The Barber (affectionately named for his career) and I have been dating for approximately four months. We had our first date on Super Bowl Sunday. I am not a big football fan, but he was cute, and it was a cute date. We’ve sort of been casually dating ever since and he’s the first guy that I’ve dated seriously in about four years.

We’re together most every weekend from Saturday until Monday or Tuesday, and I have been known on occasions to spend the entire week dancing around his house in my socks and underwear playing house husband. We have a no pressure type of relationship which leaves us lots of room to have fun together (And oh the fun we have together). 

Up until last weekend I assumed I had him pretty whipped. But when I was at his house I found that condom wrapper, minus the condom, peeking up at me from the trash can.

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Friday, June 10, 2011

Are Black Gay Circuit Parties A Hotbed for HIV?

via Living Out Loud with Darian

As the winter months disappear and summer approaches, the change in weather provides the perfect opportunity to strip off all the layers and wear as little as possible as you revel in the compliments of both male and female admirers as they fawn over your chiseled physique.

There’s a list of beach parties, cookouts, and annual events on your calendar and none of it will start until you arrive. Your biggest dilemma is making sure your chosen wardrobe for the weekend will turn heads the minute you step out of your hotel room-pardon me-your suite.

You’re black, gay, single, sexy, and free and you have a plethora of choices, from the breathtaking beaches of Miami and the sexy men of Sizzle, to the sinful allure of Tempted 2 Touch in Las Vegas, to the exotic island of the Dominican Republic, home of Inferno DR. Everything you could possibly want in a vacation experience and more is at your fingertips; men, sex, drugs, alcohol and HIV, an undesirable party favor but available nonetheless.

Black gay circuit parties have long held a reputation for offering more than is appropriate to be placed on advertisements. The organized and costly events taking place during the day may be a draw for some, but the prospect of experiencing multiple sexual encounters over the course of the weekend is at the top of the “to do list” for many attendees.

It should be understood that with any large gathering of people the opportunity to engage in sexual intercourse is always present, besides we are sexual beings with a desire to connect on an intimate level. But with every unprotected sexual encounter there’s a risk of being infected with a sexually transmitted disease, and in the case of black gay men who are heavily impacted by HIV, circuit parties catering to this population can easily become a hotbed for transmission. Well, at least that’s one theory.

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Tuesday, June 7, 2011

AIDS, the silent killer of the Black community


Reposted from CNN.com by Keith R. Green

Editor's note: LZ Granderson writes a weekly column for CNN.com. A senior writer and columnist for ESPN The Magazine and ESPN.com, he has contributed to ESPN's "Sports Center," "Outside the Lines" and "First Take." He is a 2010 nominee and the 2009 winner of the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation award for online journalism and a 2010 and 2008 honoree of the National Lesbian and Gay Journalists Association for column writing.

(CNN) -- I assumed Dr. Ronald Ferguson, senior pastor at Antioch Church of God in Harlem, was misquoted in Thursday's New York Daily News.

I thought, "No way did a member of the clergy say 'God does not want to see homosexuals in our parks.' "

I didn't think it was possible for a man working in New York City, with the letters "D" and "R" in front of his name, to compare homosexuality to pedophilia and bestiality. ("If children start to believe it is OK to be gay, they will think it's OK to be a pedophile or have sex with animals.")

I found it completely ridiculous to even think a black pastor's response to a gay pride event in 2011 would be to stay inside his house.

Read the rest here...

Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Trailer: 'In My Own Image - Healing Black Men Who Love Men'

Reposted from Facebook by Keith R. Green

This is indeed powerful and so long overdue. I eagerly anticipate the full-legnth documentary!

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This trailer is for the upcoming documentary 'In My Own Image - Healing Black Men Who Love Men.' The film features the voices, experiences and transformations of 40 young adult and adult same-gender-loving (SGL) Black male leaders from throughout the country. According to the men involved this experience changed their life forever.

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Bi-phobia at Health Forum Sponsored By Rev. Al Sharpton's National Action Network

Observations by Keith R. Green



While I praise any effort to educate and raise HIV/AIDS awareness among Black women, I cringe at such attempts that further demonize and stigmatize Black men in the process. The comments of Tony Wafford, National Director of Health and Wellness for the National Action Network (NAN), that are documented in the post below are particularly alarming considering the fact that the organization's President, Rev. Al. Sharpton, is a long-standing advocate for LGBT folks. In fact, Sharpton has stated that he intends to foster healthy dialogue about sexuality among the entire African American community through NAN.

That said, I would like to chime in with my two cents regarding a couple of Mr. Waffords remarks:

- Contrary to popular belief,sex with men who have sex with other men is not the only way that Black women contract HIV

- "The guy could have been locked down or like to 'toss up' men. No one will tell you if they were taken advantage of," he maintained. I mean…REALLY?! "Toss up men?" Can we at least strive for a little political correctness here?!

- "We accept foolishness as standard operating procedure. We got it flipped. Ladies, if you set the bar high, most chumps are going to climb up or go somewhere else. If you raise the bar, they'll come up. Women, you've got to set standards," he said. This sounds soooo very bi-phobic! Which is a HUGE issue among African Americans contributing to issues with disclosure and, ultimately, HIV transmission!

In the spirit of doing better, people, we have to make an effort to do better!




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National Action Network's I Choose Life Health and Wellness Center Addresses HIV/AIDS at KJLH's Annual Women's Health Forum

National Action Network's I Choose Life Health and Wellness Center is on a mission. More than 4,000 women from all walks of life came out to the Los Angeles Convention Center for the 11th Annual KJLH Women's Health Forum on April 2nd to take advantage of seminars, free screenings for blood pressure, blood sugar, bone density, cholesterol, body mass index, HIV/AIDS and many other significant factors for maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Also, several vendors, medical personnel and volunteers were on hand to share expertise in the health field.

Greeting the crowd, Karen E. Slade, KJLH General Manager, said, "This has been the biggest forum we have ever had and we are glad you are here. Your life and health are a gift from God; they should be cherished and enjoyed. I thank the sponsors and with your help and God's grace we'll continue to grow."

Wafford, the National Director of Health and Wellness for the National Action Network, spoke at the 11th Annual KJLH Women's Health Forum about the impact of HIV/AIDS on African American women. Wafford pulled no punches during his frank and candid discussion about the spread of HIV/AIDS in the African American community; which he said is operating under a cloak of silence. "There's an estimated half million people in the country who don't know they are infected with HIV," said Wafford.

"I have three daughters, and we never talked about how HIV affects black women. I had to teach them how to put on a condom," he said. "I encourage my daughters to have a conversation with any guy they are interested in," said Wafford, adding that many men may not be forthcoming about their sexual history. "The guy could have been locked down or like to 'toss up' men. No one will tell you if they were taken advantage of," he maintained.

Pausing, he added, "Women, you have to carry your own condoms in your purse and you have to learn how to put it on and take it off. Don't fall for the excuse a man will give you, 'I don't want to put it on because it doesn't fit," he warned.

Wafford admitted that in his youth, he was no "angel" when it came to relationships. "I used to run a whole lot of women," he admitted. "But we're at a critical point where we have to have honest conversations with each other about sexual relationships."

Scanning the audience of attentive females, Wafford declared, "Women, you have to plan how you will dialogue and negotiate with a brother. There's no way you can look at a brother and tell what he has been or is doing." As a case in point, Wafford, who regularly counsels African Americans with the HIV virus, said that looks can be deceiving. "I've dealt with homosexuals, dope fiends and thieves," he said, adding that he has counseled some hard looking brothers who look like the rapper 50 Cent. "They admit they have sex with other men. They don't consider themselves homosexual," he pointed out.

"They don't do mandatory testing of men coming out of prisons," Wafford informed the audience, adding that women should demand mandatory HIV testing for their partners. "Most guys coming out of prison are not going back to Pacific Palisades or Beverly Hills, they are coming back to South Los Angeles," said Wafford.

Commenting that black women need to 'speak up' about HIV/AIDS when it comes to their sexual partners, Wafford said, "We accept foolishness as standard operating procedure. We got it flipped. Ladies, if you set the bar high, most chumps are going to climb up or go somewhere else. If you raise the bar, they'll come up. Women, you've got to set standards," he said.

"The reason we're dying is because we don't speak up, that's the biggest problem we have. It's hard, but it's real. Unless we have honest dialogue with each other, we'll be left in the dark," Wafford said.

Other participants at the workshop included Dr. Antronette Yancey, co-director of the UCLA Center for Health Equity professor; Niele Anderson, former Sentinel Religion Editor and Faith and Community Coordinator for Let's Move LA.; and Chris Draft, an NFL linebacker active in men's health outreach initiatives. Recording artist and KJLH owner Stevie Wonder was also present along with Assemblyman Isadore Hall and L.A. Council Members Jan Perry and Bernard Parks to show their support of health awareness.

Spiritual health came from Kevin Nash, KJLH on-air personality, who conducted a session and observed, "This is my second workshop and I believe it is part of God's purpose that I share the message that spiritual health is intimately connected to physical health. You have to start from the inside out. It doesn't make any sense if you're only working on the physical because we are spiritual beings first. Take care of the inside, then the outside."

The result of the KJLH Women's Health Forum was overwhelmingly positive according to many in attendance. Members of the Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority said they attended to empower themselves and others toward a healthier tomorrow.

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

50 Cent's New Pocketbook Values: Anti-Gay Won't Pay, Even for Hip Hop

by Kenyon Farrow
(Originally posted on www.kenyonfarrow.com)

The arrest last week of Hot 97 DJ and hip-hop legend Mister Cee for allegedly having commercial sex with a 20-year-old transgender woman has sparked another hip-hop “war,” this time between Cee’s Hot 97 colleague Funkmaster Flex and rival DJ Charlamagne tha God. Since Cee’s arrest, Flex and Charlamange, a former Wendy Williams sidekick, have been going at one another over the role of queer people within hip-hop, spurring a debate that’s sprawled from Twitter to the blogosphere and that’s been filled with a good bit of the expected homophobia and transphobia.

But a surprising voice has stepped into the forefront to defend Mister Cee: 50 Cent, one hip-hop’s favorite homophobes (and a friend to Mister Cee). Fifty could care less about queer folks, of course. But he does care about the Benjamins, and to him hip-hop’s pro-gay era needs to begin for one simple reason: Homophobia isn’t good for business anymore.

Mister Cee’s case has stirred such soul searching because he’s not some fringe persona or an artist, who come a dime a dozen; he’s a major figure important not only to fans of the music, but to the actual business of producing and promoting the artists and the industry. Hot 97 is arguably the most influential radio station in hip-hop—getting a record played there, or having an interview with one of its many DJs can make or break careers. Cee himself has been a DJ for hip-hop legend Big Daddy Kane, and is credited with discovering another hip-hop icon, the Notorious B.I.G. And 50 Cent told another Hot 97 personality, Miss Info, that he never releases a record without Mister Cee hearing it first, and giving him feedback. His sexuality notwithstanding, hip-hop needs Mister Cee.

So on Wednesday, Miss Info posted a short interview on her blog with 50 Cent in which he talked about why he intends to continue supporting (and consulting) the renowned DJ. 50 Cent explained to Miss Info that the “LGBT” market (and people who see themselves as our allies) may make or break you as an artist more than how masculine and straight you appear to be:

50 Cent: They can say what they want about it, but…how about if you say I don’t care? Who is to judge you when there’s an audience that’s probably one of the strongest audiences—if you look at Lady Gaga’s career—that says that that’s fine?

Miss Info: And you will look crazy if you say that it’s not fine.

50 Cent: No, if you say that it’s not fine you’re gonna get attacked. You’re gonna write apology notices.

He’d certainly know. 50-Cent, who once bragged about being damn near un-killable, has shuffled back from multiple hateful statements and tweets he’s made about queer people, after being challenged by LGBT activists and bloggers.

Black queer activists have for years organized against homophobic lyrics in hip-hop and in Jamaican dancehall music, causing artists to lose concert dates and endorsements. (Of course, Eminem hasn’t paid the same price as black artists; he dared to share a stage with Elton John a decade ago as “proof” he loves the gays and all was forgiven.) Even Funkmaster Flex and Charlamagne tha God, while trading on-air jibes, have been careful to insist that they don’t discriminate against anyone’s sexual preferences (set aside the fact that a beef over Cee’s sexuality is in and of itself homo- and transphobic). No one can afford to have already dwindling corporate sponsors pulled. These days, pissing off any audience that seems to be buying music, like them or not, does not make good business sense.

According to Billboard.com, while hip-hop album sales increased in 2010 by 3 percent from the previous year (mostly due to Eminem’s highly anticipated comeback, which was the highest selling album of any genre in 2010), sales of rap records have been in substantial decline for five years. To be sure, all genres of music have experienced a drop in sales, but hip-hop’s decline over the last decade is far more substantial.

Meanwhile, hip-hop artists have learned that there is money to be made in a gay market—and not just by Lady Gaga. Younger hip-hop artists are not using homophobia to sell records in the way their elders often have. Nicki Minaj has written songs about having having sex with other femmes and regularly autographs the breast of female fans. She’s also been outspoken in support of queer youth. And many gay clubs—and not just the black or Latino ones—are incorporating more R&B and hip-hop into their set lists.

Last year, hip hop artist Wale initially signed up to perform at D.C. Black Pride, then backed out. But after taking bad press for backing out, he reversed himself again and performed. According to HipHopDX.com, Wale told the crowd during the performance, ”One thing I stand for is hip hop music. And hip hop music knows no race, no color, no age, no gender, no sexual orientation—none of that. So, the most important thing about it is the music, and if it makes the people feel happy, that’s what we hear.”

What’s all this mean? Maybe in an industry that’s always been dominated by young artists, the older set that rode in on a wave of thuggery and “keepin’ it real” gangsterism is becoming irrelevant. Maybe younger artists embracing skinny jeans, cardigans and skateboards will make sagging jeans and macho posing the bell bottoms of their era—the punchline of a joke. And maybe the trumped up, often misogynist masculinity that went with the old gangsta mentality will become equally absurd.

Politically, young fans of hip-hop seem to be shifting on LGBT issues. Studies show youth are much more likely to support LGBT civil rights causes, regardless of their political affiliation. If young people are the largest buying audience for hip hop, might they be growing turned off by the incessant queer bashing?

Black Entertainment Television has also, for the first time, begun to tackle the issue of homophobia. Its flagship show, “106th & Park,” this year featured Marsha Ambrosius’ video “Far Away,” about homophobic violence, and had Ambrosius on to talk about her real life experience of having a gay friend commit suicide. And this year, BET even honored me as a Modern Black History Hero for my activism as a black gay man. I’m not bragging. Rather, it marks a major shift in the network’s willingness to feature black LGBT people in prominent places in its programming. Maybe the execs at the channel are beginning to get the word that selling homophobia may cost you more than it earns in the long run.

So I hate to admit it, but 50 Cent is on to something. Mister Cee has thus far kept silent about both the arrest and his sexuality. But he might just want to shout it out, as Wendy Williams would say, because despite persistent homophobia and transphobia in the world at large, market forces may just keep the haters at bay. Say what you will about 50 Cent—who’s preparing for the release of “Things Fall Apart,” in which he plays the sympathetic role of a man fighting cancer—the reliable provocateur also clearly knows exactly when to change his persona in order to stay relevant. Mainstream hip-hop is not getting soft on gays, it’s mostly getting hard up for money, and as one commenter on Miss Info’s blog noted: You don’t bite the hand that feeds you.

Kenyon Farrow is a black gay writer, noted public speaker and activist based in Brooklyn and blogging atwww.kenyonfarrow.com.

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