Tuesday, September 30, 2008

Focus Group Opportunity in Chicago


-Gay men who are HIV-negative or don’t know their status

-Heterosexual men who are HIV-negative

-Women who are HIV-positive


-Teens ages 15-19, who are HIV-negative or don’t know their status


-Transwomen who are HIV-positive


We want to hear your opinions about HIV testing. Eligible persons take part in a FOCUS GROUP study and receive $50.


If you have any questions or want to see if you are eligible, please call Peyton at (800) 334-8571 x27046.


Research being done by RTI International with funding from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).


Monday, September 29, 2008

Happy Booty - in the Tunnel of Love

Save this date - November 18 - the last podcast forum of the year
More info, including online RSVP, coming soon

STAY TUNED

Friday, September 26, 2008

"Gay men’s health is about everyone’s health"

Lance is pictured center with partner Erik on the left,
at their Pride Day wedding officiated by Margaret Cho
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A Gay Men’s Health Agenda

By Lance Toma, LCSW

Executive Director, Asian & Pacific Islander Wellness Center


It’s so simple and real and within our reach.


As the political rhetoric turns to white noise, as the conservative regime loses its firm grip on our country, once we stop pitbull-ing and lipstick-ing ourselves against each other -- we must all see that gay men’s health is about everyone’s health. Gay men’s health is about the wellness and thriving of all of us. It’s so simple and real and within our reach.


It is a simple truth yet the path to it is not so smoothly paved. As I think about my life experiences as a gay Asian man, and my professional experiences in the LGBT movement and most recently leading a national Asian & Pacific Islander HIV and sexual health organization, I am well aware of the complicated road we must travel to achieve our equal rights and the legalities that must be righted to ensure that our nation’s policies support our health and well-being.


COMPREHENSIVE SEX EDUCATION


For gay and lesbian youth, for trans youth, for all youth – not having comprehensive, queer- and transgender-affirming sex education, is irresponsible, unethical and life-threatening. Abstinence-only education must end; the consequence of this policy is an increasing the mortality rate for the LGBT community as a whole. Condom education must be taught alongside abstinence, within a larger frame of communication and negotiation, respect for our romantic and sexual partners, love for our bodies and the clear acknowledgement of the sovereignty of our bodies, and affirmation of our sexual orientations and gender identities. Anything less is homophobic, heterosexist, and contributing to the debilitating co-morbidities associated with being part of the LGBT community.


COMPREHENSIVE HEALTH CARE AND IMMIGRATION REFORM


Health care systems, insurance structures, and all related policies must guarantee LGBT and immigrant and refugee inclusiveness, sensitivity and access. When anyone is scared to access our health care system, we have failed. When one is an immigrant, perhaps an undocumented immigrant and gay, there is no incentive to take care of one’s health, and our society sets that person up to remain alienated from their health care system. We must demand systems and models that are culturally and linguistically competent, that do not discriminate based on immigration status or sexual orientation or gender identity.


Immigration reform must ensure that, regardless of immigration status, immigrants of all ages are entitled to quality health care in our country. This, in combination with universal access to health care, is vital.


A WORLD FULL OF SAME-SEX MARRIAGE AND FREE OF STIGMA & DISCRIMINATION


I have often been perplexed at the relationship between marriage and health. And, while I do not see this issue as the end-all and be-all of our movement, I now have had the experiences of getting married several times (to the same person) in my state of California. This simple, and relatively quick (because I suppose with all the heterosexual marriages, our government has figured out how to make this a relatively red-tape-free process that can go from start to finish in under an hour), action of marriage has long-term and powerful effects. In my family, my Asian parents and grandparent and aunties and uncles have embraced my African American partner and our African American son. My in-laws embrace me as son and grandson and nephew. Our neighborhood community, mostly comprised of older heterosexual African American families, has showered us with presents and good wishes on our marriage.


Same-sex marriage has a magnificent way of eliminating stigma and discrimination that plagues our families and communities. Everyone knows how to act when it comes to marriage, or so I’ve found out. And, this has enormously positive ramifications for us an LGBT community. Ultimately, I have witnessed and experienced same-sex marriage as fostering a safer neighborhood community for myself and my partner and son and a more loving and committed extended family, both blood and chosen. This has everything to do with our survival and reaching the fullest potential of our health.


IN CLOSING…


We are all on a road that is not so well-traveled and at the same time being actively paved with great intentions and goals by amazing people. As we continue on this path, I look forward to the struggles and the stumbles, the delights and destinations along the way, and ultimately to that part of the path that is less bumpy because we will have achieved the structures and the policies, the models and the systems that ensure that we, alongside our brothers and sisters and sons and daughters, thrive now and into the future.


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[Click here to read previous input into the 2009 Gay Men's Health Agenda. Please feel free to comment there - or you could send in a full post of your own here. We will be happy to publish it! The feedback we receive will be featured in the closing plenary of the upcoming National Gay Men's Health Summit and will be a means of moving the community forward in the new year around issues that are important to all of us.]



Friday is for Faeries






Thursday, September 25, 2008

NAPWA LAUNCHES THE FIRST ANNUAL NATIONAL GAY MEN'S HIV/AIDS AWARENESS DAY


On September 27, 2008
NAPWA will launch the first
National Gay Men's HIV/AIDS Awareness Day (NGMHAAD).

NGMHAAD is a new idea designed to refocus attention on a community that has long been affected by the HIV epidemic here in the United States and abroad. It is a call to action that comes at time of heightened complacency about HIV among gay men. Yet the nation faces a resurgence of new HIV infections among gay men. Throughout the year, community based organizations (CBOs), health departments, faith based organizations, corporations, labor organizations, elected officials and other individual and collective stakeholders participate in national HIV/AIDS Awareness Days. These days raise awareness about HIV/AIDS and often focus attention on communities or groups that are disproportionately impacted by the epidemic.

The National Association for People Living with AIDS (NAPWA) is proud to be the originator of National HIV Testing Day (NHTD) which encourages HIV testing and AIDS awareness in communities across the country. This year, NHTD garnered support from celebrities, seventy-nine Mayors, members of Congress, major media outlets, and literally thousands of community and government organizations who helped get the word out that people need to take the HIV test and take control of their health. NGMHAAD will build upon NHTD's success by using methods already proven to be effective in increasing HIV testing and raising awareness about HIV/AIDS.

A TIME FOR ACTION

The fact is that the HIV epidemic is far from over for gay men. Consider that:

* Fifty-three percent of new HIV infections occurred among men who have sex with men (MSM) in 2006
* From 2001 – 2006, men who have sex with men (MSM) across all racial and ethnic groups were the only transmission category with significant increases in HIV diagnoses
* HIV incidence has been increasing steadily among gay and bisexual men since the early 1990s, consistent with increases in risk behavior, sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), and HIV diagnoses among MSM
* Gay men comprise over half of the total number of total HIV/AIDS cases in the United States
* More than 500,000 gay men of all colors have died in the United States.

Despite these numbers, gay men are only tangentially represented in national AIDS Awareness Day. An awareness day devoted solely to gay, bisexual, same gender loving and transgendered gay men fills a glaring gap in national HIV/AIDS consciousness raising efforts.

NGMAHAD's goals are to

1) raise awareness about HIV/AIDS among gay men,

2) encourage HIV testing, early diagnosis and linkage to care,

3) promote better understanding of the complex factors that drive HIV transmission among gay men, and

4) obtain broad based support to acquire needed public and private resources and sound governmental policies to prevent new infections among gay men and to provide treatment for gay men living with HIV/AIDS.

In 2008, we simply seek to announce the initiative and begin to garner interest in and generate support the concept. Over the course of the next year, NAPWA will establish a national steering committee to plan for an expanded activities and broad based national participation.

HOW TO PARTICIPATE

There are a number of ways for you to participate in the September 27, 2008 launch and first annual observance of National Gay Men's HIV/AIDS Advisory Day. These include:

* Officially endorse NGMHAAD
* Issue media advisories
* Host local HIV testing and educational events targeting gay men

Visit the NAPWA web-site at www.napwa.org. You can sign-up an official sponsor of National Gay Men's Awareness Day here. We will also post sample media advisories, press releases, talking points and other materials to support any activities you undertake on that day.

Links:

* Gay Men's HIV/AIDS Awareness Day Flyer
* Media Tool Kit for Gay Men's HIV/AIDS Awareness Day

Contact Leo Rennie at (240) 247-1030 or lrennie@NAPWA.org

HIV Advocates Demand Re-Gaying of Prevention

via Duncan Osborne in Gay City News

Publishing on the website positivelyaware.com, Jim Pickett wrote in August that AIDS groups and the government "continue to miserably fail gay and bisexual men in the area of HIV prevention."

Pickett, the advocacy director at the AIDS Foundation of Chicago, cited data from the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) that was released in June and showed new HIV diagnoses among gay and bisexual men in the US in 33 states had increased 8.6 percent from 2001 through 2006.

"I was not in the least surprised," he wrote. "[We] have been essentially ignoring gay men of all colors in addressing this epidemic. Instead, we have chosen the politically expedient path of pushing the false notion of a generalized epidemic in which 'we are all at risk.'"

Since June, the CDC has released data showing the gay and bisexual men accounted for 57 percent of the new HIV infections in 2006. The agency reported that new infections among all other groups fell, but new HIV infections among gay and bisexual men reached their highest peak ever in the mid-'80s, declined by the early '90s, and then increased through 2006.

Separately, Walt Senterfitt, board co-chair at the Community HIV/AIDS Mobilization Project, wrote in a September CHAMP newsletter, "There has also been a consistent tendency over at least the last 15 years within much of the AIDS community itself - and certainly by the media and other institutions of civil society enlisted in the struggle against HIV/AIDS - to 'de-gay-ify' HIV/AIDS."

Both Pickett and Senterfitt called for a renewed focus on gay men and HIV and demanded that resources that match HIV's impact among gay men be spent on that population. Just as important, Pickett told Gay City News, "We have to claim this, we as gay men have to own this."

But nearly 30 years after the CDC reported the first cases of AIDS in a small group of American gay men, it may be that the broader community of gay men does not want to own HIV.

Read the rest.

Relationship Compatibility: The Six Lights Theory


via Ken Howard, LCSW

In my private practice as a psychotherapist, I work frequently with gay couples seeking conjoint therapy to address a variety of challenges in their relationships. Over 16 years of practice, I have come to notice certain consistent patterns in what drives conflict between either long-term couples, or couples who recently met each other and who are trying to establish a relationship. Often, the struggles in a relationship are due to something going on in how we think about the other person mentally, feel about them romantically, or respond to them sexually. I call it “The Six Lights Theory.”

It goes like this: For a relationship to be working optimally, it is as if the two partners of a relationship have three little “status lights” on their bodies that light up, kind of like a computer modem. We have one of these lights on our head (indicating how we are responding to our partner rationally, and if they stimulate us mentally); one more at our heart (indicating how we are responding to our partner emotionally and romantically, such as being in love); and one more at our crotch (indicating how we are responding to our partner with sexual feelings). The brighter the lights in each area, the more robust our response. However, whenever one of these status lights is dim or burned out, there is a problem in the relationship. For a relationship to thrive at any given time, all six lights – his three, your three — need to be shining bright.

Brian and Victor came to see me due to complaints that they hadn’t sex in a long time, and both of them were starting to seek sex outside the relationship. In the course of couples therapy, it became clear that while their “head lights” were still bright – in that both of them still enjoyed each other’s company, stimulated each other intellectually, and had great talks – and their “heart lights” were both on – in that they still considered themselves in love and committed to keeping their home together – Brian’s “crotch light” in his sexual feelings for Victor had dimmed a bit, and Victor’s “crotch light” had dimmed to almost being off for Brian. Upon exploration, it was revealed that Victor had lost some sexual interest in Brian because his body had changed over the years they were together. Brian had slowly gained a lot of weight due to a new job that had kept him at a desk long hours.

Read the rest.

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Where's Our National Campaign Against Homophobia?



Walt Senterfitt asks this critical question and submits his thoughts as part of our mobilization to collect input for the 2009 Gay Men's Health Agenda.

Walt is a 64-year-old epidemiologist in Los Angeles, living with HIV for more than 22 years, and is Board Co-Chair of CHAMP (Community HIV/AIDS Mobilization Project). He's been an AIDS activist for 25 years, one aspect of his lifelong struggle for social justice for everyone.

[Click here to read previous input into the 2009 Gay Men's Health Agenda. Please feel free to comment there - or you could send in a full post of your own here. We will be happy to publish it! The feedback we receive will be featured in the closing plenary of the upcoming National Gay Men's Health Summit and will be a means of moving the community forward in the new year around issues that are important to all of us.]

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The long-delayed release of the CDC's new HIV incidence estimates for the United States coincided with the opening of the International AIDS Conference (IAC) in Mexico City. These two events had one striking common theme: gay and bisexual men and other men who have sex with men (MSM) are the core of the epidemic in the US and in many other parts of the world and must be at the core of the response in order to end AIDS.

The majority of new HIV infections (more than 57%) are among gay, bisexual and other MSM. [See below about terminology] Gay men are 10 to 30 times more likely to get HIV than are heterosexual men and the population at large, in the US and worldwide.

The resources dedicated to HIV prevention and research among gay men, however, are not proportionate to their centrality in the epidemic. Prevention money is not following the epidemic. Furthermore, the total "pot" for HIV prevention is way too small, and shrinking. Thus, the CDC reports that fewer than 8% of gay and bisexual men surveyed in 15 cities received group-level HIV prevention services and only 15% received individual-level interventions, i.e. 85-92 % of all MSM at risk for HIV are not receiving the currently most effective prevention support.

If the CDC study had reached all gay and bisexual men, including those in small towns and rural areas as well as those who would be afraid to participate in such a survey, the true number of gay men not being reached with effective prevention would no doubt exceed 95%! This critical failure affects MSM of all races and ethnicities, but is most dire among Black, Latino, American Indian and Asian and Pacific Islander gay men whose risk of acquiring HIV is several times higher than the already sky-high risk for white gay men.

Estimated Number of New HIV Infections, by Transmission Category, 2006



Source: CDC HIV/AIDS Facts, August 2008 (http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/topics/surveillance/resources/factsheets/incidence.htm)

The Government's Non-Response

Why is there such a gap between the epidemic and the government's response? For starters, there is a scarcity of accepted interventions for gay men that, in turn, is caused by a historic underinvestment in research on HIV prevention among MSM. Only four of the 30 "best-evidence" prevention interventions in the CDC's current updated "Compendium of Evidence-based Interventions" and only four of the 17 packaged "DEBIs" (shorthand for a CDC project called Diffusion of Effective Behavioral Interventions) are directed at MSM. State and local health department and community-based organization prevention programs are strongly encouraged, if not outright required, to use these interventions in their federally-funded programs.

A strong legacy of fear and resistance abounds in the federal government and, therefore, in academic research to honest and open discussion of sex and sexuality in federally funded research, messaging and programming – and that is most especially true for homosexuality, transgenderism and all other forms of "non-normative" or diverse sexuality. While this taboo is broadly cultural, it owes its specific foundation in HIV prevention to the "Helms Amendment" which forbids the use of any federal prevention program and evaluation dollars for anything that might be considered "promoting" sex or sexual behavior outside of heterosexual sex within marriage. Though somewhat ameliorated by legislative compromise and judicial decisions, this provision – originally known as "no promo homo" – remains on the books as Section 2500 of the federal Public Health Service Act (42 U.S.C. Section 300ee(b), (c), and (d)) and is enforced by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

While there is not such a clear legal restriction on using federal money for research into homosexual behavior and identity and prevention interventions for MSM, there have been periodic Congressional efforts to impose such limitations. As a result, National Institutes of Health (NIH) program announcements and peer review panels have effectively self-censored in such a way as to effectively hamper this critical research.

"De-gay-ifying" HIV/AIDS

There has also been a consistent tendency over at least the last 15 years within much of the AIDS community itself – and certainly by the media and other institutions of civil society enlisted in the struggle against HIV/AIDS – to "de-gay-ify" HIV/AIDS. For example, messages stress that HIV is an "equal opportunity virus" and that anyone can be at risk, emphasize children and women at risk, and stress that HIV/AIDS is, in its majority, now an epidemic in communities of color (while simultaneously neglecting to stress that those most disproportionately impacted in communities of color are gay and bisexual men).

This direction in messaging was in part well intended, to combat the widespread assumption that if you are not a white gay man, AIDS is not your problem and you are not at risk. It was also meant to get beyond the intensified stigmatization of gay men and focus on the behaviors that put one at risk. This approach has been embraced by many HIV positive and other gay men who fear the added stigmatization of having "gay" remain widely associated with "HIV/AIDS" in public consciousness. Even from the start though, this approach was a capitulation to rather than a confrontation of societal stigma and prejudice against gay people, against transgender people, against all people who are sexually "non-normative." And it didn't work. Homophobia still is rampant, dollars have gone elsewhere, and, alone among the exposure categories, HIV infection rates among gay men are rising.

HIV transmission and the AIDS epidemic are not just about the behavior. They are also about the social and structural context of the behavior, about the vulnerability and resilience of communities and populations, about individuals living in communities having the awareness, tools and support to protect themselves and their partners. Homophobia is itself a major risk factor, as well as part of the risk context or vulnerability, for HIV transmission among MSM and, indirectly, for sexual transmission from men to women.

The International AIDS Conference stressed repeatedly the need to move the social and structural context, environment and interventions front and center. The CDC and the NIH have long given lip service to this dimension, but have devoted neither the money and other resources nor confronted the barriers to do so. There are no structural and social interventions whatsoever in the CDC's Compendium of Effective Interventions or DEBIs. There is nothing in the public portfolios of the CDC, NIH, SAMHSA (Substance Abuse & Mental Health Services Administration) or HRSA (Health Resources and Services Administration) that confront and target homophobia as a key barrier to ending the US HIV epidemic.

Mexico's Example

The IAC also highlighted the experience of the Mexican national health ministry and national AIDS program in targeting homophobia as a central priority in its HIV prevention response. The national AIDS program, CENSIDA, led by an openly gay and HIV positive physician, Jorge Saavedra, has for the last several years engaged in social marketing and community mobilizations against homophobia and has funded local campaigns.

The IAC was preceded by the First International March Against Stigma, Discrimination and Homophobia to the central national square in Mexico City. The march included tens of thousands of Mexicans from all sectors of civil society with Dr. Saavedra and the Mexican Minister of Health in the front rank. In his welcome to the opening ceremony of the Conference, the conservative Catholic President of the Mexican Republic, Felipe Calderon, called for a continuing national campaign to end homophobia. While Mexican activists in the trenches may be rightly skeptical of the hypocritical gap between rhetoric and reality, can you imagine George Bush saying this or HHS Secretary Leavitt in such a march?

Mexico is heavily Roman Catholic, socially conservative, and ruled by its most conservative national political party. If it can nevertheless recognize the fight against homophobia as central – and say so – why can't the United States?

Therefore, We Demand:
  • That the agencies responsible for leading the federal government's response to the AIDS crisis take the lead in announcing and orchestrating as a public health priority an explicit, multi-faceted, multi-year campaign against homophobia, stigma and discrimination against sexual diversity.
  • That this campaign be embraced and supported by state and local governments as well, and by media, non-governmental and private sector organizations with any relation to the fight against AIDS.
  • That the campaign include social marketing and other appropriately targeted messaging as well as funding for innovative local and national community mobilizations, individual and group level interventions.
  • That the lead agencies and community partners assess all current laws, policies and programs that explicitly or implicitly reinforce homophobia and stigma and/or act as barriers to effective anti-homophobia messaging and interventions, and change or propose changes to such laws and policies as soon as possible. This includes a careful review and, where necessary, revision of all current and future guidelines relating to HIV/STD/drug abuse prevention programs and a specific effort to repeal all vestiges in law of the original "Helms Amendments."
  • That, affirmatively, promoting healthy expressions of diverse sexuality be recognized as a key requirement of advancing public health and should therefore be reflected as appropriate in all health-related publications and guidelines. This specifically includes guidelines, funding and curricula for adolescent and school health programs related to sex, sexual behavior and sexual identity.
  • That the NIH, through the Office of AIDS Research and other mechanisms, and in coordination with the CDC, prioritize the development of social and structural interventions and strategies that will most effectively undermine public and private homophobia, stigma and discrimination. These must include the development of better measurement and evaluation tools for assessing progress against homophobia and stigma, for social and structural interventions in general, and for combination prevention packages or strategies.
  • That this campaign against homophobia and for healthy sexual diversity must primarily be funded through new funding as part of a renewed and expanded national commitment to end AIDS, rather than by reducing funding of other effective programs and research.
  • That this campaign recognize and reflect the multiple, interlocking social and structural strategies needed to combat the other root causes of the continued HIV epidemic, including, in particular, racism and xenophobia, women's oppression, transphobia, mass imprisonment, the "war on drugs," disempowerment of youth, and homelessness and other manifestations of poverty. Homophobia manifests quite differently in different communities and in combination with other forms of social oppression. Our response must be commensurately sophisticated and well matched.
We ask for input, collaboration and support in this effort from our partners and allies throughout the AIDS movement and communities as well as other fighters for social justice. Recognizing the centrality of gay, bisexual and other men who have sex with men in the response to this epidemic, and demanding an appropriate national response, in no way should distract us from other critical campaigns and emphases in the fight to end AIDS. Rather, a grounding in all the truths that ending AIDS is a fight for social justice and that "an injury to one is an injury to all" will make us stronger, each and all.

Terminology – Culture, Identity and Behavior

How to refer to men who have sex with other men, exclusively or some of the time is a challenge for which there is no easy solution. "Gay" came to be used most commonly, but only within the last few decades and many men, even many who readily identify as exclusively homosexual, have never or no longer embrace the term. For some it is too heavily associated with white men to be acceptable; yet other proposed terms such as "same gender loving" have not achieved widespread consensus either.

For others, "gay" is too limiting or old-fashioned, when sexuality is much more diverse and fluid. For some, it implies a connection to a particular community or subculture they do not wish to embrace, or refers too much to an identity rather than a behavior. "Bisexual" is also problematic for many, even those who acknowledge having sex with both men and women. Many men who have sex with other men identify themselves as heterosexual, straight or other terms for culturally normative sexual behavior and identity.

Because of this complexity and lack of consensus, and the desire to be behaviorally descriptive in discussing HIV risk and in targeting HIV prevention efforts, the CDC and community allies came up with the term "men who have sex with men" or MSM. This works for some purposes, but how many individuals identify themselves as an MSM? This term, while epidemiologically accurate and inclusive, is often criticized for leaving out the critical aspects of identity, culture and community in understanding sexuality and diverse sexual expression. Yet to simply say "gay" or "gay and bisexual" may mistakenly imply that the speaker assumes that all men who have sex with other men are essentially the same, and understand their sexuality the same way.

For want of a better solution, we have used "gay," "gay and bisexual," "MSM" or "gay, bisexual and other MSM" more or less interchangeably in this article. We are quite aware, though, of the very important cultural and individual differences and contradictions in any such shorthand references and, more importantly, in figuring out how to reach and support everyone to whom this rubric applies.

Woof Wednesday






Tuesday, September 23, 2008

BULLETPROOF FAITH: A Spiritual Survival Guide for Gay and Lesbian Christians

A refrain heard relentlessly by gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people of faith is: “God hates fags!” Whether it’s hurled as a direct insult or stated more subtly in a “Love the sinner, hate the sin” theology, the message to GLBT ears is the same: “God hates you and so do we!” From this kind of blatant attack, to “ex-gay” ministries, to faith-based arguments for a proposed amendment to the U.S. Constitution against “gay marriage,” to the divide in churches like the Episcopal Church over a gay bishop, the faith of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people of faith is constantly under assault. In such a toxic religious environment, many GLBT people abandon their faith, believing that God hates them or at the very least will not love them unless they give up or deny their sexual orientation.

Read more.

Focus Groups for Gay/Bi men in a relationship

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Monday, September 22, 2008

Unhappy with your body?


Research shows that gay men don’t like their bodies very much.

That might seem surprising, given the amount of time many of us spend at the gym. We probably devote more time and effort to cultivating our physical selves than any other demographic group. (This article is part of a continuing series for GAYTWOGETHER authored by John R. Ballew, M.S., a licensed private practice professional in Atlanta - specializing in issues related to coming out, sexuality, relationships and spirituality.) Just the same, research indicates that straight men like their bodies most, followed by gay women; straight women like their bodies less than these first two. The group that likes their physical appearance the least is gay men.

Why is this? Gay men spend a lot of time in places that place a premium on physical appearance: bars, gyms, sex clubs. We live in a sexualized subculture that places a premium on physical beauty, and media and advertising bombard us with images that reflect an impossibly high standard of physical beauty. Under circumstances like these, it’s easy to confuse who you are with how you look.

We all like to see attractive men, of course. Still, more and more men – even men with bodies that most of us would agree are muscular and very attractive – find themselves very dissatisfied with how they look. At it’s most extreme, this situation is called body dysmorphia – a preoccupation with some imagined defect in appearance when the person involved is actually very normal looking. This problem can lead to depression and trouble forming healthy relationships.

Research indicates that eating disorders and body image problems are linked with public self-consciousness, social anxiety and feeling dishonest about who one really is. Men with internalized homophobia who have difficulty accepting themselves as gay are probably especially likely to develop a distorted body image or eating disorder.

Compared with women, who generally only worry that they are too fat, many gay men worry that they are either too fat or too thin. This misperception can become a genuine distortion disorder that could be called "reverse anorexia" or "bulkorexia." Even when dramatically muscular, men with this misperception feel they are too small or thin.

It's easy to see how men who have grown up with images of limp-wristed, reed-thin gay men form this sort of reaction and seek to show that they don't fit the stereotype. Preoccupation with muscles becomes a way of relieving fears about our masculinity.

Places where gay men socialize especially bars, gyms, and sex clubs, often emphasize physical attributes or make those the first criterion for checking someone out. It's difficult for someone who is older than a certain age or different from the prevailing cultural standards of beauty to catch someone's eye in a bar or club.

This has the sad and unintended consequence of leaving some gay men in the social binds most familiar to teenage girls – obsessed about their appearance and feeling like their locus of control lies completely outside of themselves.

If you have trouble accepting your body, there are steps you can take to improve the situation. First, take the concern seriously. Don't confuse who you are with how you look. Develop a sense of identity based on all of your attributes and on your values.

Put your body back together. Consider stretching, yoga and massage as ways to help yourself feel like more than just "skinny legs" or "love handles." Indulge in body pleasures – long baths, massage, good sex, a walk in the park on a sunny day. Make your own list.

Learn to appreciate body types in all shapes and sizes. Stop trashing men who don't conform to the "buffed" image. Seek alternative role models. Don't emphasize body size or shape as an indication of a man's worth or his identity as a man. Learn to value the person inside.

And finally, confront homophobia, including internalized homophobia. Don't accept being treated as a second-class citizen by straight society or by other gay folks.

Redefining Spirituality



Many of the world’s religions often stand in the way in the advancement for gay rights. As churches struggle to reconcile with modern times, they often scapegoat their own queer members in order to retain influence and power.

Because of this, a lot of people feel animosity to the religions they grew up with and as adults reject it wholeheartedly.

On today’s show we’re talking to two men who are taking a fresh perspective on the core ideas behind religion- who are we, where we are going and why do terrible things happen? Ultimately, what is the meaning of my life?

We’ve got Mark Anthony Lord- the spiritual director for the Chicago Center for Spiritual Living and Jeff Stahl, a licensed therapist who counsels people in moments of terrible grief.

Listen as we talk about finding a time and space to quiet the mind, the nature of addiction- why do we seek out things to destroy ourselves and how to take concrete steps to embrace a deeper understanding of your own life.


Body, Mind, Soul - and more in Seattle this October

2008 National Gay Men's Health Summit

Friday, September 19, 2008

The Problem: Internalized Homonegativity

"This study is a missing link in our understanding of the relationship between sexuality and health," he said. "It provides new evidence that negative attitudes towards homosexuality, not homosexuality itself, are associated with both poorer mental and sexual health outcomes seen in sexual minorities. Conversely, positive attitudes towards homosexuality are associated with better mental and sexual health."

Read the whole article.


Love the One You're With


To promote condom use, education, and awareness, AIDS Foundation of Chicago has launched the “Love the One You’re With” campaign, and you are invited to join the effort.

HOST A CONDOM GIVE-AWAY CAMPAIGN
Add a condom distribution to your next block club gathering, educational event, or health promotion day. While we can’t supply the condoms, the following resources make putting together a condom distribution campaign easy and fun.

Educational Inserts (PDF)

Contact AFC to let us know what you are planning and we may have printed literature or other materials to supply, based on availability.

CONDOM NEWS

Check out the "Love the One You're With" site for the latest condom related news

CONDOM ADVOCACY
AFC is building a list of condom advocates to support local, state, and national condom education and access programs. Join our list today.

Bareback porn and masturbation



via My Bareback Blog

Bareback porn can be a safer way for those watching to indulge in their sexual fantasies, because watching bareback porn usually goes hand in hand with masturbation and not actually having unprotected anal sex. For a number of men, watching bareback porn is as close to bareback sex as they get. Some men enjoy the concept of barebacking, but are concerned about the health risks associated with not using a condom, including HIV and other Sexually Transmitted Infections (STI’s), also known as Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD’s).

Read the rest.

My Son Is My Life


Click here to learn more about this great campaign.

Friday is for Faeries



November 2, 1916 - September 14, 2008

John Burnside is in the wheelchair with the fabulous orange hat. This was his last Easter with the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence. Also pictured are Sister Lily White Superior Posterior (on the left), James Lovette-Black (with cowboy hat). I'm not sure who that was on the left (but what a pleasant face).

I helped wheel John through the crowd that day (and if you've ever seen how crowded Delores Park is on Easter that was no small feat) up to the front so he could see the bands play (I think it was the Ex-boyfriends).

[read Chris Bartlett's tribute to John here.]

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Written Testimony on HIV Incidence and Prevention from George Ayala

Mainstream descriptions of the HIV/AIDS epidemic in the U.S. often paint an incomplete and misleading picture about what’s going on nationally. These descriptions often start with statements about the disproportionate toll HIV/AIDS is taking in communities of color, especially among African Americans with no mention of the specific sub-groups most at risk, namely gay/bisexual men, drug users, and women at sexual risk. Moreover, funding remains inadequately targeted to these groups.

George Ayala shares his powerful testimony for consideration in the 2009 Gay Men's Health Agenda.

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Written Testimony on HIV Incidence and Prevention
For Congressional Hearing to be held September 16, 2008


Submitted to:
Chairman Henry A. Waxman
Committee on Oversight and Government Reform
Congress of the United States
House of Representatives


Respectfully submitted by:
George Ayala, PsyD

Research Public Health Analyst
RTI International

Consultant to AIDS Project Los Angeles


Introduction
Chairman Waxman and distinguished members of the Committee on Oversight and Government Reform: thank you for this opportunity to speak with you today on the critical topic of HIV prevention in the United States. My name is George Ayala, and I work as a research psychologist at RTI International and as a Consultant to AIDS Project Los Angeles, where I was the Director of Education and Community-based Research for more than 6 years. I have worked in HIV prevention for 18 years. It is my privilege to be here with you today.

HIV prevention in the United States has been enormously successful and cost efficient despite the public scrutiny and criticism it continues to receive. As has been demonstrated by my esteemed co-panelist Dr. Holtgrave, HIV prevention efforts have resulted in the drop in HIV incidence from its peak of 161,000 infections in 1984. Moreover, the gross cost per HIV infection prevented is well below the estimated lifetime cost of treatment for one person living with AIDS.

Several effective HIV prevention programs, largely individual-level behavior modification interventions, have been developed over the first two decades of the HIV/AIDS epidemic. Recent reviews of these interventions have demonstrated that across studies, reductions in HIV risk behavior and improvements in knowledge, attitudes and beliefs about HIV/AIDS were greater for the target populations who received the risk reduction intervention compared with those who did not. This is true for men who have sex with men , heterosexual adults , adolescents , and individuals receiving HIV prevention intervention delivered within drug treatment programs.

In addition, overall reductions in the proportion of individuals engaging in sex without the use of condoms as a result of receiving an HIV prevention intervention range from 26% for men who have sex with men to 29% for heterosexual adults. These rates are comparable to the 30% efficacy rate established as the minimum acceptability standard when testing potential vaccine products.

So if HIV prevention works, why have HIV incidence rates not continued to drop? In our view, the key to further reducing HIV incidence in the U.S. is in our capacity to more effectively target resources and stay focused on classic prevention principles.

Presently, HIV prevention in the U.S. lacks the resources and comprehensiveness that will significantly drive down HIV incidence rates. In the absence of a clearly articulated, aggressive, and well targeted national HIV prevention plan, the U.S. instead relies on piecemeal initiatives for stepped up HIV testing and treatment.

The key to further reducing HIV incidence in the U.S. lies in how we think about, plan, and implement HIV prevention policy, research and practice. In other health fields with much longer histories, prevention has a more sophisticated shape. For example, smoking prevention programs combine pharmacological interventions, behavior modification, social persuasion techniques (including the use of social marketing to influence community norms), and structural change (like policy reform and legislative initiatives) designed to discourage nicotine use.

Obviously, nicotine addiction and HIV infection and the behavioral and social determinants of each are different and we must exercise caution in comparing the two. But the point of the comparison is compelling and raises important questions about some of the problems with contemporary HIV prevention in the U.S. Consider the following:

- Pharmacological interventions of HIV disease including anti-retroviral treatment do not cure HIV, are not effective for some, and are not accessible or available to everyone who is HIV infected;

- Addiction to substances other than nicotine, including alcohol and crystal methamphetamine, is highly stigmatized and in most cases criminalized rather than prevented or treated;

- HIV prevention programs are not always targeted to populations most at risk – nor are they sustained over long periods of time;

- Available HIV prevention interventions were primarily tested for efficacy in the late eighties and early nineties on groups heavily affected by HIV/AIDS at that time and may therefore have limited cultural relevance;

- Most HIV prevention interventions are designed to modify behavior at the individual level (i.e., perceived personal vulnerability, self efficacy, intention, assertiveness and communication skills, condom use, reduction in the number of sex partners) with little regard for the interpersonal, social and cultural determinants of HIV risk;

- Many HIV prevention interventions are difficult for community-based HIV prevention providers to adapt and therefore adopt because they were tested under research conditions that are different from real life settings or tested on populations different from those currently most at risk for HIV infection; and

- When addressing the risk for HIV infection, behavior modification seeks to redress personal deficits without regard for existing individual and collective strengths, competencies, or resources.

While HIV testing and treatment are crucial in our fight against HIV/AIDS, a singular focus on testing and treatment for people living with HIV/AIDS narrows even further an already sparse continuum of prevention strategies. A comprehensive national HIV prevention plan in the U.S. requires culturally relevant, multilevel, combination approaches that are well funded, targeted, coordinated, and sustained over many years. The following are specific recommendations for building such a national plan:

Work to eliminate disparities in health access and stigma associated with AIDS, drug use, and homosexuality. Our collective desire to prevent new HIV infections and the urgency that we feel to do so quickly, open the doors to simplistic, overly medicalized and inadequately researched public health responses. This is the case with the current rush to promote circumcision as a prevention strategy and the CDC’s almost singular focus on HIV testing and treatment. This emphasis on testing and treatment, although crucial in our work to end HIV/AIDS, significantly narrows the continuum of possible prevention strategies. There is no disputing the potential personal and public health benefits of HIV testing. However, HIV-infected persons draw the greatest benefits from the latest available treatment when they can receive treatments early. Nearly 40% of HIV-infected persons learn of their infection within a year of receiving an AIDS diagnosis. For Latinos and African Americans, this number can be much higher. Exacerbating the situation is the fact that African Americans and Latinos are over-represented among those living at or below poverty level and without health insurance. The personal benefits of knowing one’s HIV-status early are lost on those who must overcome the significant barriers to care and treatment and persistent stigma that keep some away from care. We must work for the eradication of disparities in health care access and social stigma associated HIV/AIDS, drug use or homosexuality.

Target our HIV prevention efforts to those most at risk for HIV exposure, keeping a steady and respectful focus on the prevention needs of gay and bisexual men, substance users, and women at sexual risk. Mainstream descriptions of the HIV/AIDS epidemic in the U.S. often paint an incomplete and misleading picture about what’s going on nationally. These descriptions often start with statements about the disproportionate toll HIV/AIDS is taking in communities of color, especially among African Americans with no mention of the specific sub-groups most at risk, namely gay/bisexual men, drug users, and women at sexual risk. Moreover, funding remains inadequately targeted to these groups. This is especially troubling when we consider, for example, that men who have sex with men continue to make up the majority of new HIV infections and the majority of people living with HIV/AIDS nationally across race and ethnicity. In many places around the country, gay and bisexual men, and especially gay men of color, continue to drive the AIDS epidemic. In fact, in jurisdictions like New York City and Los Angeles County where seroprevalence among Black and Latino men who have sex with men can be as high as 32%, the need for effective HIV prevention programs specifically designed for and targeted to these two groups is especially urgent.

The HIV/AIDS epidemic’s affect on women is intricately tied to the lives of these men. In addition, substance abuse continues to be one of the most powerful determinants of HIV risk across populations. Our ability to formulate effective prevention responses requires a more direct discussion about the nature of HIV risk that includes frank, open and non-judgmental conversations about gay/bi men, drug users, and women at sexual risk for HIV. The alternative is that we accept silence and denial about sexuality, drug use, and economic inequality, permitting HIV-related stigma, racism, sexism, homophobia, and poverty to continue to complicate our prevention efforts. We must keep a steady and respectful focus on the prevention needs of gay/bisexual men, substance users, and women at sexual risk.

Expand prevention and support services to people living with HIV/AIDS. It is also true that when people know they are infected with HIV, they are significantly more likely to protect their partners from infection than when they are unaware of their infection. Research also tells us that behavior change that occurs as a result of HIV testing is sustainable for up to 18 months at best, making HIV testing as effective as other stand-alone behavioral interventions. Knowledge alone, in this instance knowledge about one’s HIV status, is not enough to sustain and support behavior change over time. Prevention interventions and support services can enhance and reinforce behavioral changes among people with HIV/AIDS that occur as a consequence of testing. At present, these are not well supported.

Support continued vaccine, pre-exposure prophylaxis and microbicide research. Accessible HIV treatment and other biomedical interventions including pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) and microbicides hold enormous prevention potential. From a prevention perspective, medical management of HIV disease lowers viral load thereby reducing infectiousness. This makes treatment and adherence important components of our overall HIV prevention strategy. Additionally, microbicides and pre-exposure prophylaxis are important options for people who find themselves unable to avert high risk situations or for whom behavioral methods are not an option. We must strive through sound research to broaden the range of HIV prevention options to include bio-medical prevention strategies. Continued support for vaccine, clinical, and microbicide research is needed.

Make the prevention and treatment of drug and alcohol addiction central to HIV prevention efforts. In HIV prevention research, one of the most powerful behavioral predictors of HIV risk behavior is drug and/or alcohol use. The association between crystal methamphetamines and HIV risk behavior is well established. Prevention providers and researchers have known this for years. And yet substance abuse prevention and treatment programs are few in number, under-funded, and in some instances, nothing more than court mandated 12-step programs, the quality of which varies from place to place and from meeting to meeting. We must make the prevention and treatment of addiction central to a more comprehensive national HIV prevention plan.

Intensify support for comprehensive sexual health education, screening and care. Behavioral interventions have been shown to significantly reduce the risk for HIV infection for adolescents as well as adults. Interventions designed to achieve condom use among sexually active adolescents were most successful when condoms were provided and information and skills training about their use was offered. Moreover, behavioral interventions reduce the risk for HIV specifically because they increase knowledge about sexual health, skill acquisition, sexual communication, and condom use, and they decrease the onset of sexual intercourse or the number of sexual partners. Screening and treatment of sexually transmitted diseases for all must go hand-in-hand with comprehensive sexual health education and both must be seen as integral to our HIV prevention efforts.

Develop programs for both aging adults and young people whose, HIV prevention needs may be different. Decreased visibility of targeted and regularly updated HIV prevention messages in recent years may have reduced the salience of HIV prevention programs for communities most at risk. For example, outdated and over-simplistic prevention messages for gay and bisexual men may explain what is often referred to as “HIV prevention fatigue” or “HIV/AIDS burnout.” With changing trends in the epidemic, and more people living longer with HIV, it is important that HIV prevention advocates, practitioners and policy makers not get seduced into forgetting that HIV prevention needs not only evolve, they must also expand. This is because in addition to aging adults who have managed to remain HIV negative, there are newer generations of young people with whom we must now also concern ourselves. Therefore, the potential audiences for HIV prevention messages must be carefully segmented by age, gender, sexual orientation and race/ethnicity and messages specifically crafted and regularly updated for their respective audiences.

Ensure that priority be given to expanding social science and intervention research aimed at gay and bisexual men especially men of color. The CDC recommends several evidence-based HIV prevention interventions as part of its Diffusion of Behavioral Interventions (DEBI) initiative. There is however a limited number of interventions available that are specifically designed to address the cofactors of HIV risk for gay and bisexual men of color. In recent public comment (March 26, 2008) to the Presidential Advisory Council on HIV/AIDS regarding the CDC’s newly revised compendium of evidence-based interventions, The AIDS Institute noted that only four (8%) of the compendium’s 49 interventions specifically target gay men, despite the fact that men who have sex with men account for nearly 70% of all new HIV cases. Of those four, only one was specifically designed for and tested with Asian and Pacific Islander gay men. Although this is beginning to receive much needed attention, it remains a serious gap. We must expand our research efforts with a focus on gay and bisexual men of color as a strategy for expanding available HIV prevention interventions for this disproportionately affected population.

Support innovative prevention strategies that address both risk behavior and its social, cultural and contextual determinants. The risk for HIV infection is often understood as being connected to some individual trait, characteristic, or deficit. Another way to understand the risk for HIV infection is as a function of interpersonal and socio-cultural contexts. In other words, risk behavior does not happen in a social vacuum. At present, interventions that are endorsed by public health institutions in the U.S. largely focus on modifying individual risk behavior without taking into account the situational, interpersonal, social or cultural determinants of risk. It is important that our interventions address changing risk environments, social/sexual networks and socio-cultural factors that contribute to the heightened risk for HIV transmission. We should support prevention research and interventions that address both HIV risk behavior and their social, cultural and contextual determinants.

Explore and disseminate community-sensitive and ethical structural interventions to complement behavior modification programs. There is growing recognition that social, economic, and environmental forces directly affect the risk for HIV transmission. At the structural level, laws and policies that result in a lack of immigrant rights, discrimination against lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people, lack of family housing at migrant labor worksites, unregulated commercial sex, criminalization of possession of syringes, and lack of financial support for medical, educational, prevention, and social services can be changed through policy and legislative reform. For example, in 1992, New York State enacted a change in the public health law (Public Health Law 80.135) that carves out an exemption to the penal code regarding criminal possession of syringe equipment. The change in law gives the New York State Commissioner of Health the authority to grant waivers to community-based organizations and government entities to collect and furnish syringes. New York State supports a multi-component syringe access and disposal program that is informed by harm reduction principles, and which is credited for a 50% reduction in HIV transmission among injection drug users, a 75% decrease in the buying or renting of syringes, and a 63% decrease in syringe sharing behaviors. Similar reductions in HIV incidence rates among injection drug users in New York are well documented and there is evidence to support safer injection facilities. Structural-level changes buttress the gains in behavior change made through individually geared prevention interventions. HIV prevention efforts cannot succeed in the long term without addressing, through structural interventions, the social factors that underlie HIV vulnerability. We must continue to support and explore community-sensitive structural interventions to complement behavior modification programs as part of a larger, more comprehensive national HIV prevention program.

Balance the policy of promoting pre-packaged science-based HIV prevention interventions by supporting and researching more localized, indigenous and collaborative HIV prevention strategies. HIV prevention interventions currently being promoted by the CDC -- or the so-called “out-of-the-box,” “evidence-based” interventions “scaled-up” for mass distribution -- are not easy to use and therefore reduce the likelihood that they would be adopted by the end-users of the interventions who are community-based health educators and outreach staff. Because these interventions were developed and tested within research conditions that do not mimic real-life conditions, they are often considered prescriptive. These interventions sometimes require unrealistic time commitments from clients and specialized training for the staff implementing them. Prevention providers asked to adopt pre-packaged interventions sometimes feel no ownership over what they are being asked to do. Their ability to introduce their own innovations from insights gained in their work with clients is often limited by overly determined intervention manuals. It is critical to respect on-the-ground responses to the HIV/AIDS epidemic by protecting local control over how HIV prevention strategies are developed, researched, prioritized and implemented. This will ensure that HIV prevention efforts remain responsive, varied, dynamic and innovative. Available HIV prevention and epidemiological science should be used to guide local efforts, not dictate them. We must also ensure that the people setting priorities and designing HIV prevention programs at the local level have access to the best available evidence-based information and technologies possible. Technical assistance and capacity building should be made available when and if requested, and should be tailored to the specific needs of those requesting assistance. We should strive for collaborative and participatory approaches to formulating effective HIV prevention interventions that are flexible enough to permit creative modifications and withstand organizational change typical for non-profit agencies. Such approaches should involve researchers, service providers, and consumers alike.

Promote HIV prevention programs that build upon and mobilize existing individual and community strengths, competencies and resources. With few exceptions, HIV prevention interventions are problem oriented. They seek to remedy personal deficits rather than to promote or mobilize existing individual and collective competencies, strengths or resiliencies. What makes individuals and communities resilient to HIV is poorly understood and relatively overlooked in the HIV research literatures. There is prevention potential in engaging and mobilizing an individual or community’s capacity to know what’s best for them when they are given opportunities for self-reflection, social involvement and connectedness through volunteerism and activism. Whenever possible, we should promote HIV prevention research and programs that build upon and mobilize existing individual and community assets.

Conclusion
Although HIV prevention interventions have been shown to be effective, HIV prevention efforts in general have not received the funding needed to make them more comprehensive and widespread. HIV prevention messages are not ubiquitous or sustained, and may not be reaching those at highest risk for infection. This may in part explain current HIV incidence rates. Driving down HIV incidence even further will require that we think differently about HIV prevention policy, research and programs. We must also expand our capacity to imagine new possibilities for HIV prevention work by challenging ourselves to remain creative and open to collaborative approaches in our efforts to end the HIV/AIDS epidemic. We need a comprehensive national HIV prevention plan in the U.S. that clearly calls for culturally relevant, multilevel, combination approaches that are well funded, targeted, coordinated, and sustained over many years.
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